This excerpt from The Dot Spot: Adventures in Love and Sex has been published with permission from MFBooks Joburg, an imprint of Jacana Media Ltd. Now available from all leading stores.
If you’ve been single and dating for a while, you’ll recognise that feeling where you want to run around like Will Ferrell screaming ‘ARE WE ALL IN CRAZY TOWN OVER HERE?!’ because you can’t get a handle on the mixed messaging you’re getting from the Mr Mens around you.
I think these behaviours are all a complicated mix of game-playing, ignorance and lack of valuable life experience.
Also, we shouldn’t ignore the fact that people are often just weird and don’t have any manners. Luckily, you really don’t have to stress your head about their nonsensical ways, you can just move along the moment you see the red flags.
Unfortunately, many women confuse these red flags for ‘normal man behaviours’ and think that within this context they’re acceptable. Worse, because they’re normal and acceptable, that it’s something that should be adapted to. Not so.
Use this as a poophead-spotter to save you valuable time and energy.
The hit and run.