I’ve been with my partner for 15 years, we have two kids and I’m pregnant again.
He paid lobola but we never wed. Every time we argue he always blames me and slaps me. The last time he hit me I laid a charge against him. He got really angry and said it’s over between us. He has a girlfriend and has been sleeping in the lounge for the past three months. I still love and miss him, even though he’s hurt me. I need him so much during this pregnancy. Please help.
Sis Dolly answers:
Wanting and longing for him are different to actually needing him. Do you really believe you need such a man in your life? He seems to have moved on and perhaps it’s time you do the same. His behaviour makes it very clear that he doesn’t appreciate you or value your relationship. Thank goodness he did not harm your unborn baby when he hit you. Don’t wait around until he hits you again – you need to protect yourself and your children from his abuse. That should be your focus right now. For help call People Opposing Women Abuse (Powa) on 011-642-4345.