I’m a 33-year-old mother of one and my boyfriend is 35.
He has three children from previous relationships and we’ve been together for four years. His mother doesn’t involve me in anything they do and never acknowledges my presence. If she wants something she calls him, even if she needs a babysitter because he and his kids live with her. He does everything for her and she’s doing everything in her power to destroy him but he doesn’t see it.
Sis Dolly answers:
It sounds as if his mother doesn’t recognise you as his partner at all, and this is naturally taking a toll on you as you’d like to be regarded as part of the family. You need to talk to your partner about this, but be sure to do it diplomatically. Explain how you feel without criticising his mother or accusing him of anything. Remember that this conversation will make your partner feel like he’s stuck between a rock and a hard place. Don’t make him choose between you and his mother. If all else fails, call the Family Life Centre on 011-788-4784 to ask for assistance from a counsellor.
