Forget online dating sites. Your Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts are the new matchmaking platforms if you are one of the many lonely souls searching for love.
Two women, who spoke to City Press about finding love on social media from a pool of friends, attest to this.
It started with Lebogang Kganyago accepting a Facebook friendship request from a stranger in 2008. Four years later, she found herself madly in love with the same stranger.
“He liked my photos and commented on my Facebook posts regularly. Then he got my number on my information list and contacted me,” Kganyago says.
The suitor didn’t initially reveal his true intention when he contacted the IT specialist and they started hanging out as friends.
“We went for a movie at a mall the first time we saw each other,” she recalls.
The friendship developed into a romantic relationship and it has lasted to this day.
Kganyago says she was not scared when she met him face-to-face for the first time.
“We had been Facebook friends for a few years and were used to each other. He told me about his background and I discovered we actually attended the same Catholic school, although we never met each other there.”
“I didn’t tell anyone about it because I had learnt to know and trust him,” she says.
Kganyago and her partner are hoping to take their relationship to the next level soon.
Finding love on Facebook wasn’t weird for Mogau Sebeka.
The media personality had seen one of her friends walking down the aisle with a man she had met on a social-media platform.
So, when she received a Facebook message from an online friend who constantly showed interest in her pictures and posts asking for a date, she gave him a chance.
After a few online and offline chats, Sebeka and her beau let love do its thing.
Unfortunately, she soon found out that the guy had omitted important information about his previous romantic escapades.
He had told her he had one child. But Sebeka investigated further and discovered he had several children with different women and had previously dated her friend.
“I dumped him. I realise that what people portray on social media is not who they truly are,” she says.
She urges women to do a proper background check on suitors they meet on social media.
“If a person is a mutual friend between you and your friends, let them know that this guy approached you so that you avoid dating your friend’s ex or current partner,” she says.
SEVEN STEPS TO FINDING A PARTNER ON SOCIAL MEDIA
- Add the person as a Facebook friend and follow him or her on Instagram
- Do a “background check” on Facebook and Instagram
- Comment on his or her posts often.
- Like a picture or two, but not old ones – this will make you seem like a stalker! Wait to see if you get any likes in return.
- If you don’t get any likes back – hold off for a while. If you get one or more likes back, follow up and with a short private message on Facebook chat, such as: “Hello, how was your day today?”
- If the private conversation goes well, ask for their telephone number.
- Arrange to meet in a public place so that you don’t scare them.
Source: Telenor Norway