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Shhhhh... not too many of us talk about masturbation. It is something we do on the quiet and generally do not share with others. In fact, a lot of my girlfriends pretend not to do it at all. There is a veil of secrecy around masturbation that is not easily penetrated, made harder as bringing up the subject is a bit tricky. Not really dinner table conversation.

I was on the internet looking for a cake recipe when – lo and behold! I came across an entire website dedicated to masturbation. Discussions about dildos, lubes, techniques, erotic stories and more. And by more, I mean candid interviews with women about why they masturbate and how it feels... pretty damn good, by all accounts.

Viva self service...
I think I have been masturbating since I could walk; I have a special relationship with my clit. Being comfortable with masturbation opens up a whole new world. It means you get to know exactly where you like to be touched and how. You might suffer through some bumbling idiot's crap fingering technique without saying a word, but it's unlikely you would rub yourself raw and get no satisfaction for the pain.

... with audience participation!
You will also quickly come to the conclusion that playing with yourself is not only for under the covers in the dead of night. Masturbation is a fabulous activity to be carried out in broad daylight with an audience.

By an audience I do not mean sunbathers on Clifton 2nd, I mean your partner. My man was gagging for a show of hands, something he swears is the hottest thing he could possibly watch. The voyeuristic is VERY SEXY.

Unlike anal beads or a dildo, it's easy to bring a little hand play into the bedroom without needing couples counselling before hand. It does not have to be a show, but can be something you just slip into your routine.

Trust me... if you start playing with yourself in the middle of foreplay, it will not go unnoticed for long! Just make sure you have lube at hand, it heightens the experience.

If that is not temptation enough, you can also do it whenever you feel the need and no man is required.

Readers? Hands up. Who is honest enough to admit to some furtive (or not so furtive) fiddling?

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