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Reader Question 1
I’m married to a very abusive woman whom I haven’t touched for the past eight years since she banished me from the bedroom. She has since asked me to leave our property, failing which she’ll lay rape charges against me. Fearing arrest, I have left the house, and only get to visit with the kids occasionally. I also cannot enter our yard for visits. Meanwhile, my wife is now sharing our home with another man whose wife has threatened to burn down the house. Where can I find help, or what can I do?
Jade :
I’m sorry to hear about your marriage breaking down. It is unfortunate that your wife uses rape, a reality which many women suffer, to threaten you. I’m not certain of the legal implications of moving out of your home before a finalised separation has been declared, but I believe moving out was best in light of your wife’s threats. You should seek legal counsel to help you with a way forward. They will be able to guide you in terms of property sharing, or custody and visitation rights. I wish you all the best.
Reader Question 2:
Is it possible to increase the size of my penis by using creams that are made to increase breast size?
Jade:
There is no lotion or pill that will permanently increase penis size. Regular exercise improves arterial health, which results in better blood flow to the penis during stimulation and will give a stronger erection. You really shouldn’t worry too much about the size of your penis. The average penis is said to be 7.5cm to 12cm while flaccid, and 12cm to 18cm when erect. Women care more about being treated with kindness. Other relationship factors also rate higher in importance than the size of your penis.
Reader Question 3:
What treatment can I take for blisters on my genitals?
Jade:
I would advise you to consult your doctor, who will run the appropriate tests and prescribe suitable treatment.
Reader Question 4:
I am a married man who has lost the spark for my wife. However, when I’m with someone else, the spark is back. What can I do?
Jade:
New love is exciting. There is nothing stopping you from reigniting the spark with your wife. You have to put in the work. Find things to do together that will bring you closer to each other. Communicating your evolving needs and listening to hers will prove very beneficial.
Reader Question 5:
What are Kegel exercises?
Jade:
Kegel exercises are done to strengthen a woman’s pelvic floor muscles. These muscles support the uterus, bladder, small intestine and rectum. Benefits of Kegels include reduced urinary incontinence. Some studies also credit them for increasing the likelihood of reaching orgasm.
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