“With your palm facing up, insert two fingers – about two inches into the vagina – and make a ‘come hither’ curling motion on the walnut-sized, probably roughish, patch you find there…”

If you’ve read anything about the G-spot you’ll recognise this sort of instruction.  

Then, on following this instruction, you’ll probably have come to one of three conclusions: "Yes, yes, oh God, yes!" or "Nope. Nothing. This is stupid." or "Wait … maaaybe? Not sure."              

And, contrary to the popular habit of homogenising female sexual anatomy, all three responses are perfectly valid. Wanna know why?

Because the G-spot both is and isn’t a "thing". Stay with me here…

In 2014, Dr Emmanuele Jannini, professor of endocrinology and sexology in Italy, undertook research to settle the subject of a ‘G-spot’ once and for all.

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You see, since it’s not an actual organ that is also found in all women, most medical researchers consider the idea of a ‘G-spot’ fantastical poppycock. 

How your body experiences pleasure today, can change tomorrow.

Dr Jannini, however, thought it best to do what science still struggles to do: take what women say about their experiences as legit and start from that premise. 

Using ultrasound, he and his team paid close attention to the physiological changes that occurred during all forms of penetration. 

What they discovered was that on arousal, when the clitoral structure and urethral sponge engorge, penetration displaces these organs, pushing them up against each other and the vagina.

And for some women, the direct stimulation of the urethra in this "pushing against" is deeply pleasurable.

So instead of a static ‘spot’, it’s more a ‘dynamic pleasure zone’ as the clitoris, urethra and vagina become aroused and through penetration get busy rubbing up against each other.
 
Dr Jannini is calling this interplay between these organs during arousal the clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex. It’s much more of a mouthful than ‘G-Spot’, but then again, more is more when it comes to sexytime so I’m not complaining. 

What we need is to know that sexual pleasure is not an on/off switch that hides mysteriously in your genitals.
          

But that’s not all folks. Scroll back up to that part about "some women". 

Dr Jannini makes a point of pointing out that only ‘some’ women will experience this CUV complex as pleasurable, because – surprise, surprise – each woman’s body is different.

The basic anatomy is there, sure, but how you specifically experience the CUV complex is influenced by your unique balance of hormones, the size of your organs, how your neural pathways are wired, and how strong your muscles and cardiovascular system are.  

To make matters more interesting: How your body experiences pleasure today, can change tomorrow. 

Which is why there’s never going to be consensus about whether a pleasure ‘spot’ exists for every female body in the world.  

And that’s okay. We don’t need consensus. What we need is to know that sexual pleasure is not an on/off switch that hides mysteriously in your genitals.

So while moving from a ‘spot’ to a "complex in a dynamic interplay of organs" might be mouthy, it’s a giant step in the direction of overhauling of old ideas and conversations around women’s sexual pleasure. 

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