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Losing your virginity: Girls

Contrary to what we see in books, films and television, losing your virginity is seldom a beautiful, satisfying experience. In fact, for most people it varied from disappointing to downright embarrassing. Read these stories to see if your own was similar. And if you’re still a virgin, here are some tips for first time sex.

This is what the girls had to say:

Bathroom so-so-bliss

Well sadly there was nothing romantic or earth shattering about my first time… It was nothing like the movies would have us believe..

I was 19 and had been with my then boyfriend for about a year when we decided that we were ready to “take things to the next level”. It finally happened one morning after a huge party which turned into a sleep over at a good friends house, my boyfriend and I went to the bathroom together with the story that I wasn’t feeling well (great excuse after a party)… and as they say one thing lead to another…

The setting was terrible, we were both slightly hungover and the house was buzzing with people..not exactly the best first experience.. but that said it was still very emotional and kinda special in some ways…

Good thing we don’t base everything on first impressions, practice makes perfect right? ;)
Megs

Hospital love

So - I was 15, my boyfriend and I went to visit my mother in hospital - on the spur of the moment we decided to have sex in the hospital bathrooms - you know the big ones you get in the wards? Well the ward was empty so we thought it would be a good idea.

It wasn't.

End of story.
Heidi

Drunken fumbling

I was 16 and he was one of my friends. We’d started snogging every time we were alone and I was desperate to lose my virginity. So when the opportunity arose I spent the night at his flat (he was 20). We made out for most of the night and drank an entire bottle of whisky. I can’t remember much about the physical act though… But it was the beginning of a wonderful 5 year relationship.

The sex definitely got better with practice.

Wedding night sex

We are both religious and waited until we got married. The first 5 times or so (spaced over the entire honeymoon) was really difficult. We had trouble fitting his bits in mine and it hurt very much. We had lots of fights and there were many tears.

I’m still glad I waited though.

True romance

I believe I was lucky in this regard.

Despite a 3.5 year relationship in High School with my first sweetheart, we never did the deed (we came close, but always stopped short – and I am so very that’s how it worked out.) He was sweet and kind and fun to hang out with and we honed our kissing skills and discovered each others and our own bodies but it wasn’t the passionate, deep, hungry love.

That came next, when I left these shores – I found my first true love in a quiet village in North Devon, England.

We were together for 8 months before we finally decided that it was inevitable we were going to have sex, and we wanted it to be planned and special. (I was of course still a virgin; he, though younger than I, had a notch or two on his bedpost – so at least one of us kinda knew what we were doing.) So we chose a day, and spent it together, wrapped up in each other and in the knowledge and excitement of what lay ahead. We visited a junk yard, walked on a beach, drank beer in a seaside pub and bought condoms at a small store.

And kissed and kissed and kissed. The whole day.

So when night fell and we finally made it in to my single bed we were so ready. And it was awesome.

I hear other people talking about how they lost their virginity in the backs of cars or down some alley, or with someone whose name they’ve since forgotten or never knew, and I hug my own happy experience to myself, grateful that I have that happy memory stored away in my heart.
Joy

I lost my virginity to an asshole. I knew that at the time but I did it anyway (mistake #1). He was 22 and I was 16 (mistake #2). My best friend was dating his best friend (mistake #3) and we girls decided that that night would be the night.. coz how cool would it be to pop our cherries at the same time (mistake #4). The year was 1998.

The night it happened, my BFF and I had snuck out of our homes and the guys were plying us with brandy mixed with the purple Powerade (our little quartet's favourite drink). The deed happened in his best friend's flat - while said BFF & my BFF were doing it in the other room. We had to do it with the lights off, because the guy's electricity had been cut off. Sigh. Those guys were total amateurs!

The foreplay was fantastic and I was really looking forward to seeing how much better it could really get. But when it happened, it was excruciating and I regretted it the moment he penetrated me. I still remember my exact words at that moment "Jeeez!! Get off!!" LOL. And he was all, "shh. It's ok". The pain didn't last long, but I didn't enjoy even one single moment of it. I spent the whole time staring at one corner of the ceiling. At one point, he even stopped and looked over his shoulder to see what I was staring at. I could tell he was very disappointed that I wasn't writhing in ecstasy. I reckon he rated his skills quite highly. So did I - until that moment. The one word I would have used to describe sex that night would have been 'meh'.

He was really sweet about cuddling afterwards, but I was feeling nowhere near warm and fuzzy. With practise it got better, though... much better! We ended up staying together for 6 years (on and off) and he is still (though I'm so over him) the BEST shag of my life!
First time sucked


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