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Dirty talk:
What is it?
According to Wikipedia, Dirty talk is formally known as Lagnolalia. This is when a couple uses graphic imagery to heighten their sexual pleasure. Dirty talk is the use of vulgar language, words that don’t need to be repeated on this page, I tell you! Phrases like: “I’d like to touch your long hard… well, you get the picture! This can happen before, during or after sex and it can be done just about anywhere too!
Why you’ll like it:
Whether he’s texting you a work or emailing you from the airport, if he’s telling you exactly what he wants to do to you and where he wants to do it, it is guaranteed to turn you on!
Why he will like it:
Many men are primal creatures. They like control and authority. If he calls you up on his way home from work and you explain what you’d like him to do to you when he gets there, it’s exciting and different. He will appreciate the creativity of it all.
Care talk:
What is it?
This manner of speaking is a little more romantic. It involves the very sweet, “you’re beautiful, I love you, make love to me…” and can be very stimulating, especially for those who believe there is a difference between having sex and making love. This kind of talk encourages affection and intensifies the emotional chemistry during sex. It also used most commonly within secure relationships.
Why you’ll like it:
If you’re a hopeless romantic and like to be held and pampered during love making, Care talk is safe. It will make you and your partner both feel secure and loved. Also, Care talk is nice for women who like their man to be in the lead during sex. It may be stimulating for both of you if you ask him to tell you he loves you or even if he tells you that you’re beautiful.
Why he will like it:
He’ll like that he is the man here. He is the nurturer and the giver of pleasure and love. He may enjoy your soft whispers of adoration and in return pamper you more. Men who enjoy care talk most are those who are in serious and committed relationships.
Instructive talk:
What is it?
Ever watched the episode of Sex and the City when Samantha teaches Smith how to give her the most perfect clitoral stimulation by coaching him through it? This is exactly that! When one partner instructs the other on how or how not to please them during sex. Many women get shy about this too, but there’s no need! If you want to get what you want, what better way to get it than to tell your partner?
Why you’ll like it:
If you are the instructor, you may like the little bit of authority you have, being able to dictate how you want to be pleased. However, if you are the one being instructed, it could be exciting to be told how to fast or how slow to go. If you’re feeling a little self conscious, you can whisper your requests in his ear, the secrecy could be romantic for him.
Why he will like it:
He may like to be told how to touch you; this could both turn him on and teach him a thing or two about the secrets of your body. If you do a little role play with this talk, you may find that he adheres to wishes a lot quicker too!
What kinds of talk have you used in the bedroom? Tell us in the box below…
