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You can’t hate change…

The last few years, and especially the last few weeks have been full of change for me.  

Life as I knew it changed rapidly. Change can be wonderful and scary at the same time.

We welcome good changes be it little ones or the big ones, but there are also bad changes which we all hope blows over as quickly as possible. The thing about change is that as much we want it we also fear it. We hold onto our current state like a safety blanket.

Change is part of life, some of us don’t adjust well to it, we get frustrated when there is a detour in the road which we travel on every day, we get angry when people don’t do what they said they would do; we are hurt when people decide they no longer want us in their lives.

We grieve uncontrollably, inconsolably, and understandably so.

We get attached to certain specific expectations, be it from ourselves, from people whom we love and care about.

That’s why some of us don’t like to get too attached so at least when change happens it won’t be so unsettling.

We fail to realize every day we experience changes.  I’ve formed attachments in my life and they’ve caused me both pleasure and pain. No matter how hard I try the non-attachment route, it difficult.

What I do know and remind myself of daily is - nothing is permanent.  

Knowing this, even for an instant, reminds us to appreciate and to be grateful for the good times—and it helps us during the difficult times too.

Most of our time that we are attached to things; our being, our little creature comforts,  other beings we love, we experience the full gamut of pleasures; pains and disappointment of this human existence.

And then Change happens.

It’s sometimes brilliant, sometimes uncomfortable, or excruciatingly painful BUT it transforms you.

Whatever the change it helps you become a better version of yourself.

With me, change is scary most times. I tend to analyse things to death. I take in several scenarios, dissect them and put them back together. Depending of the change, I either embrace it or fight it.

Sometimes fighting it, doesn’t work, because it just happens no matter how hard you resist.

I have been fighting changes for so long now; it’s exhausting. I am slowly learning to accept and give it a chance.

I am making a concerted effort these days to embrace change, to accept the newness, the now-ness,

I morph into who I want to be. As mind-blowing as it is for me, I am learning to appreciate this sort of change.  

In those overwhelming moments of emotion; I ask my Creator…why? In order to live to my full being some things in my life must change and although difficult, these changes  somewhat hard to understand at a point does  lead to great things ahead.

Some changes maybe miniscule, like a discontinued product which I loved, to a mammoth change, like a death?  

The worse kind of change is the one we attach to human bonding and relationships on whatever level.

We hate being alone, yet so afraid of commitment because it involves change. Some of us hate our jobs, but the fear of being unemployed or the unknown scares them.

It doesn't matter whether you like change or not, whether you welcome it or reinforce your walls against it. We want to hold onto to the current whilst waiting to see what the universe throws at us.

Seasons change, we age, our health takes a knock, we experience losses in life...  all beyond our control yet it changes us. One minute it’s sunny and the next minute it’s raining ‘cats and dogs’.

We just need to remember to carry an umbrella. We can be afraid and be angry at life, but bottom line is change happens, big or small.

It’s sometimes refreshing, sometimes disappointing, sometimes kicks you in the gut; but change is part of life.

Change is inevitable, it gives you a warning to either embrace it or reject it. More like a heads up most of the time, even though it will take place, with or without your approval.

I have been through changes, from a great job to no job, from being able to spend without thinking of the price tag attached to now balancing my budget aware of every cent I spend. It occurred to me that although these recent changes have been difficult, my life is moving forward yet somehow I get to decide what direction I am going, ever mindful of this truth.

Getting out of my comfort zone is the toughest; I am learning to see changes as a new chapter in my book of life. It’s a fresh opportunity, discovering new people; new places; new interactions and new experiences.

Change MUST Happen For Life to Progress.

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