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Dezemba is upon us and people’s relationships are about to go on life support as cellphone networks in South Africa are said to pull an Eishkom load shedding during this time of the year.
Those in the know say that no real relationship starts in December and singletons must be careful not to misconstrue festive infatuation for true love.
Jokes aside, after weeks of research in my social circle and stalking lovers online, I could not locate a single couple whose flame initially sparked as a Dezemba fling. I have always been one to believe that if one kept an open mind, true love can cross your path at Gogo’s funeral, the bus stop or even the club.
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Similarly, does it then not make sense that it can creep up on you during a cold winter night, a scorching hot day in October or even during the romantically notorious Christmas season?
Passions are on steroids over the festive season with people seeking cathartic experiences to rid themselves of year end fatigue and wanting to have the time of their lives, which they have been deprived of all year long.
What if your Dezemba fling is actually your LOML (Love of my life)? What if after the festive craze wears off and the Januworry woes hit, you discover that their personality gels with yours and you both want to share a pap and cabbage meal together until the 31st?
What if the theory about Dezemba flings being meaningless passing phases are a myth and by deleting their number on 3 January you are actually missing out on the illusive one who is said to come around but once a lifetime?
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Historically, people have been known to be reckless and ratchet over the festive season, taking a break not just from their day jobs, but from their morals as well.
The gorgeous Marilyn Monroe once said:
So, if it is true that mankind is generally at their worst behaviour over the holiday season then it makes sense that new relationship you embarked on at that time has already survived the worst.
This surely means that from then on, the next step is to experience each other at your best.
Summer, winter, spring or autumn; the dating pool is a consistent mess. What was in the streets before December will be in the streets in the new year as well.
Don’t ghost that person yet, go with the flow and who knows, by this time next year you’ll be celebrating both Christmas and your anniversary on exactly the same day. Besides, December in South Africa is wedding season.
