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I've somehow fallen in love with a woman. The problem is she's married with 2 kids, and in a verbally abusive relationship. I think her hubby is suspecting she is doing something behind his back. I really love this girl, and don't want to lose her.
I'm also too scared to tell my family I might be a lesbian. I've never been with a guy and she was my first. What must I do???
- Anon
Answer
It sounds like the woman is going through serious emotional problems right now. It would probably be best to support her as a friend and not get too emotionally involved at the moment – especially since her husband is suspicious about her commitment to their relationship.
Should she feel the same way about you, your relationship will develop naturally after an honest conversation.
I believe sexuality is fluid, it depends on the person you're attracted to and how well you relate with her/him.
When she is ready, talk to her about your feelings and when you are ready let your family know about your sexual orientation. Take your time. Although it's a frustrating point in your life, recognise that you don't have to have all the answers now. It sounds like you're just discovering these emotions and you need to explore how you feel about it first and be comfortable with it.
- Mrs. Miller
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