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- A bride doesn't want her big day to be ruined, so she did not invite her and the groom's grandparents to their wedding.
- The groom's grandmother has Alzheimer's and her grandparents have health issues.
- The couple may be on board with the idea, but the family is upset.
A bride on Reddit has decided to not invite anyone over the age of 70 to her wedding. The blanket rule includes her and the groom's grandparents because she does not want anything to 'ruin' their big day.
The young couple has big families, and they are trying to figure out how to make the guest list work with their budget.
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"Our grandparents are all in their 80s, and his grandma has Alzheimer's - she forgets who people are, doesn't know where she is a lot of the time, and sometimes she just randomly starts crying or yelling, and it's really depressing. Both my grandparents also have some health issues and demand a lot of care and attention," the bride shares.
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To make the rule 'fair', they decided not to have anyone over the age of 70. The couple is comfortable with this plan, but the rest of the family is upset.
"I really don't want any of this to ruin our big day. I don't want his grandma shouting or making noise during the ceremony or my grandpa needing help and being a big distraction. I feel like people are going to be paying a lot of attention to them instead of the wedding and the wedding couple," she writes.
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She thinks their grandparents would be bored at the wedding and more comfortable at home anyway. "It's an opportunity for their caregivers to come out and relax and have fun without worrying about caregiving responsibilities for the evening," she says.
A Reddit user commented: "I'm sure your grandparents will be heartbroken you don't want them there. Being over 70 is not the same as being under 10 - you can't exclude people just because they aren't able to do the cha-cha slide. You are going to offend and hurt a lot of people."
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Another user commented: "Let their caregivers or whoever is closest to the situation make the decision on what's best. Later stage Alzheimer's can definitely make people stressed, uncomfortable, angry, or even violent, and they shouldn't go in those situations. I've also been to weddings with grandparents with Alzheimer's or other memory issues who still had a good time, even if they forgot they already congratulated the couple or who the other family was. It's definitely case by case."
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Another person commented: "Imagine being so insecure that you would be afraid that someone needing assistance would take too much attention away from you at your wedding. I fully support OP [Original Poster] and her fiancé, making it very clear that they don't want "old people" at their wedding. That way, their friends/family/associates know exactly the kind of people they are and can decline to attend."
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