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- Sexual orientation can be a sore point in families.
- One bride-to-be says her brother has never accepted her sexuality and is against her relationship.
- She decided not to invite him to her wedding since he's been criticising the relationship for 9 years.
We live in a generation well known for setting boundaries and sticking by them regardless of societal norms and standards. We are merely focused on protecting our peace and nothing else. This bride-to-be's brother was not supportive of her being lesbian and, like many other family members, said her sexuality was just a phase. When she got into a serious relationship in high school, he continued to say that the relationship would not last, but he was wrong as the couple is about to walk down the aisle. In response, she decided not to invite him to her wedding.
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Taking to Reddit, the bride-to-be started by telling readers that she met her fiancé in high school, and they began dating a few months later. "We've been together for nine years now, and for her birthday in April, I proposed... I was thrilled when she said yes, and we started planning our wedding." She continues to add that they've always wanted a winter wedding and chose a date in January as it's winter in the US. Last week they sent out their wedding invitations, and that is when she received an angry call from her brother asking why he hadn't received one.
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"Now, my brother has never been accepting of me being a lesbian. When I first came out, he was very certain that I was simply confused and just hadn't found the right man yet. Over the years I've been with my fiancée, he's been constantly criticising her and our relationship, talking about how it was doomed to fail because one day, we'll realise what we were missing." She adds that she distanced herself from her brother and would only see him at family events. After the brother received the news about the engagement, he continued with the mean comments.
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"When we announced our engagement, he asked if we were sure about it because 'divorces are so stressful'. I mean, if anyone knows about divorces, it would be him and his soon-to-be third ex-wife. When he contacted me, I asked why he had expected an invitation after having absolutely no faith in our relationship for almost a decade, but he got defensive." She says he talked about how not inviting close family to her wedding was beyond rude because her cousins were invited. In addition, she was invited to all three of his weddings even though she only attended the first one as she was fond of the first wife.
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"My fiancée fully supports my decision because she can't stand him. My father called and tried to reason with me, promising he'd make sure my brother behaves if I invite him, but I genuinely don't want him anywhere near me on my big day." Users of the platform got on the comment section to share their opinions, with one saying, "You don't want people to 'behave' at your wedding. You want people who are sincerely and genuinely happy for you and your fiancée. Your brother isn't among them." Another added, "It's your decision not to have a bigot that has spent a decade belittling you, your partner and your sexuality as a whole at your wedding."
Sources: Reddit
