"Tuesday: 14h15

Stood in Clicks looking at the array of pregnancy tests: went for the one in the pink Toblerone-shaped box. I had to put my mind at ease after being less than responsible with my pill on a month of travel, and then having great break-up sex with my recent ex-boyfriend on my return.

15h30
Got home and dumped shopping bags on the kitchen counter. Ripped open the packet with diagrams to the effect that ‘one line = exhale, two lines = knocked up’ and peed on the stick. Home phone started ringing:

“Bugger!” I galloped to the lounge with my shorts and panties around my knees.

“Hello?” A fax tone responded: beep, beep, beep. I glanced at the stick: one line. Then, as the liquid slowly travelled further up the little window, as inevitable as a wave claiming the beach, a second line appeared.

I realised I was still holding the phone, begging the fax machine on the other end to take the second line away. “No. Please, please no.” The two bold lines remained. I wasn’t just me anymore."

About the book:


In My First Time, Southern African women have shared their stories about their significant first time experiences of sex and sexuality. This is a collection of honest, powerful, and brave accounts. Some joyful, others funny and some heartbreaking, but all of them important for women, and hopefully men, to read.

The collection includes stories such as: My first orgasm, My first abortion, My first miscarriage, My first kiss with a woman, My first memory of being aroused, The first time I had to deal with rape and my first post-divorce sex.

We've also featured an additional few extracts from the book listed below.

- My First Experience of Sexual Assault
- The First Time I Bought a Vibrator
- My First Orgasm

Do you remember your first time? Share your experiences with us below.

Visit myfirsttimesa.com to read more stories and to find out information on how to pre-order.

You can also visit the Modjadji’s Facebook page for more information on their titles.