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A bridesmaid has revealed how her demanding friend who’s getting married insisted she come to her hen party even though the bride knows that she has a terminally ill relative.
In a post on Reddit, the anonymous woman said the bride wouldn’t let her drop out of the plans so that she could be with her relative who is dying of cancer, Sun UK reports.
“A close relative of mine is in hospital dying of cancer right now and has been given days to live. He is my family’s only priority right now and we are all devastated, he is suffering awfully and we spend our days in the hospital almost waiting for him to be put out of his misery,” she wrote.
“On Saturday I am supposed to be attending my best friend’s hen party. I am the bridesmaid and have arranged it all with the other bridesmaids.”
The woman said the party would involve drinks at a friend’s house, a meal out and then a night of clubbing.
However, given that her close relative is in a fragile state in the hospital, the bridesmaid expressed that she wasn’t really in the mood to party, Metro UK reports.
“I in no way want to attend, I can’t think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of 14 guests and acting happy when I’ve spent the last week crying, and spending my evening in a club full of drunk people,” she wrote.
But when she shared her feelings with the bride, the conversation didn’t go as she’d hoped.
“I’ve called [the] bride tonight to try to hint I may not be able to attend and hoped she’d understand. She lost her dad a few years ago to cancer, she knows the impact it has,” the frustrated bridesmaid wrote.
“She was supportive in the conversation but also said as long as I’ve organised and attend the hen, then she’s happy. She’s not even considering the possibility of me not attending.
“I don’t want to let her down as she means a lot to me, but I am in no position to support her and her party right now.”
She then asked Reddit users what their thoughts were on the matter.
“You need to straight up say that you will not be going,” responded one user.
“It's totally reasonable of you to skip the hen if you explain you're simply not up for a party,” another said.
However, some said the bridesmaid should give the bride the benefit of the doubt.
