I’m a 35-year-old woman and my man is 40. In the past, he couldn’t help but look at every skirt that passed his way. I was tired of his cheating and confided in a friend, who advised me to consult a sangoma. The sangoma gave me “bheka mina ngedwa” (a love potion).
The muthi worked like a charm because now my man loves me so much. The problem is that he wants to spend all his time with me and doesn’t go out anymore. He follows me around everywhere and is obsessed with me and it’s starting to annoy me.
He has just turned into a nuisance and even attends girls-only events such as baby showers with me. I don’t know what to do to fix this mess because I miss a part of my old lover. What should I do?
Expert advice
Mareka Malatji, who is a pastor and the presenter of Relate on SABC2, says, “Instead of addressing your issues with your man, you acted based on your observations. Communication is key! The first thing you should have done was to sit your man down and tell him how his actions were affecting you and your relationship.
This should have been followed by seeking help from counsellors and family elders. You sound like someone who doesn’t trust herself, someone who expects a partner to complete her. You need to build your self-esteem and consider the company you keep. If your friends can advise you to do such a thing, then there’s something wrong with them.”
Move! readers advise
MAHLATSE SETLADI
It was wrong of you to consult a sangoma to solve your relationship problems. You should have spoken to your boyfriend and found out what caused him to behave that way and possibly find a solution.
LORRAINE SKOSANA
Just taste the pain of your own medicine. This is pure witchcraft and is unacceptable. You are on your own. Why do you have to bewitch someone to love you? You are an embarrassment to women.
PHILLIP LETEBELE
What you did is unforgivable and is going to backfire on you. I advise you to come clean with him before it’s too late because he might end up killing you and himself when this spell takes its toll.
NOMTHANDAZO MABENA
I don’t understand why you are complaining because this is what you wanted. The problem with korobela (love potion) is that once it wears off, the person will be worse than what they were initially.
