MY SECRET BABY
still at school and told no one, including the father. I was going to abort but didn’t and now my son is 18 months old. I want him to know his dad but he’s married now. What should I do?
End the lies and call the man – he deserves to know the truth, as does your son. It’s true you’ve made things difficult for yourself but now it’s time to make things right. The father of your child may be shocked but hopefully he will understand that you were young, naive and scared at the time. He may react negatively at first but talking to him will help you too.
I have two incredible men in my life who both possess great qualities. I love them equally and feel bad when I spend too much time with one and ignore the other. I’m not intimate with either of them but I can’t make up my mind.
You’re playing a dangerous game. If you carry on like this it’s almost inevitable that it will come to light and backfire on you. You need to decide which of these men fulfils you the most and then cut ties with the other one – before either of them finds out and chaos erupts.
A HOME OF MY OWN
I’ve been in a relationship with my baby daddy for seven years and our child turns five this year. We have a house we built together but I’m no longer into him and I want my own space. I told him I want to buy a stand or house for myself and my siblings. I know it’s hard for him to understand but I don’t want to be dependent on a man anymore. The problem is he’s making this very hard for me – he says he’ll kill me or kill himself.
It’s commendable that you have a vision for the future and are willing to see it come to fruition. Your partner seems to be manipulative and is emotionally blackmailing you with his threats. He needs to understand that if you’re no longer into him you’ll be living a lie and will both end up miserable. Get your plans in place for moving on. If you feel you’re in danger you can apply for a protection order against him. Contact Powa on 011-642-4345 for advice on how to deal with his threatening behaviour.