WILL HE COME BACK?

Question

I’m a 24-year-old girl who met and dated a foreign guy last September. He stayed at his boss’ house, so I advised him to find his own place and helped him to make the place presentable by buying him a few home appliances. He wanted me to become pregnant but because I was a student I refused. Then he dated his neighbour and they slept together. She lied and said she was pregnant. My boyfriend told me he didn’t want me anymore, but we got back together when he discovered she had lied. At times he’d call me just to have sex and would chase me away afterwards.  He’s now dating someone else and doesn’t want me, saying he’s married. I’m still in love with him. Will he ever come back to me?

Answer

He has on several occasions shown you he doesn’t value or need you in his life, and he doesn’t love you as much as you love him. It’s clear he’s using you only to satisfy his sexual needs. Unfortunately, you’re unable to see that because you’re still holding the torch of hope that you might get back together. He’s moved on and you should too. Do yourself a favour: forget him. There are many men who will love and appreciate you.

I HAVE NO CONFIDENCE

Question

I’m a 31-year-old woman and I have low self-esteem. I shout at my boyfriend a lot as he’s soft and calm. Please help me.

Answer

Sometimes we have experiences growing up, the effects of which show up only later in life. You need to think about what could have led you to become the kind of person you are. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be able to build your self-esteem. A counsellor can help you and teach you how to communicate with your boyfriend. It would also be beneficial if he attends the sessions with you. Call Famsa on 011-975-7106 for a centre near you.