Heartbreak can be devastating. Not only are you losing someone you shared your life with, but you may begin to question your own worth and contribution, especially if you weren’t the one who ended things.
It isn’t easy to get over it, but it is possible. One thing to avoid is rushing into another relationship to replace your former partner. It’s important to heal before entering into a new relationship with open wounds.
Allow yourself time to grieve for the lost partner. They were a big part of your life and to dismiss your feelings will do no good. Acknowledge that you’re hurt and miss them, but, whatever you do, avoid reaching for the phone to make contact or visiting old places you used to frequent together in the hope of running into them.
Clear out all reminders of your former partner, as these may trigger a state of sadness.
Take time out to be self-centric. Rediscover your passions and learn to enjoy your own company. You can’t be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. Find new hobbies to keep yourself entertained.
Spend time with friends and avoid bombarding them with recollections of your happier times with your lost lover.
When you feel ready again and have let go of the resentment from your previous relationship – and this amount of time could vary with individuals – start considering dating again.
If you still find yourself struggling to cope with the break-up, there is no shame in seeking the help of a qualified therapist.
There is someone for everyone who wants someone. Remember that most of our dating is trial and error, and a failed relationship does not one a failure make.