WATCH: Khloe Kardashian and Tristan Thompson are in couple's therapy - here's what you need to know about your options
The couple seem to be holding a united front after a family friend revealed that they are in couple’s therapy.
According to the Daily Mail, Kris Jenner’s friend Lisa Stanley said that the couple is now in therapy to rebuild their relationship after Tristan’s cheating scandal.
Lisa said on “One thousand percent they are working through couple’s therapy. She’s working hard; he’s working hard. You can’t just earn trust back in two months.”
Lisa added, “She doesn’t want to look a fool. She was a fool once with Lamar, and she didn’t want to do it again.”
Khloe clearly loves Tristan and wants to make their relationship work. But what exactly is couple’s therapy about?
We asked Mimi Hewett, a registered relationship and family counsellor, what exactly couple’s therapy entails and what it means for couples.
So when exactly should you go for couple’s therapy? “You can go for couples therapy any time during the relationship – you don’t have to wait until there is a BIG problem. But it is absolutely a good idea to go for therapy after infidelity, to help you as an individual deal with the hurt, but also as a couple to discuss how this incident changed the relationship and to figure out how to move forward,” says Mimi.
Mimi points out that conflict in couples is actually healthy, but it is how you deal with it that is the issue. “It is very important to understand that all couples will experience conflict at some point – it is healthy to have conflict, because it means that we actually care enough about each other to want to discuss things that we are unhappy about. How you deal with the conflict and resolve it, is where many couples struggle and where couples therapy can be very helpful,” she says.
So what kind of tools can you learn in therapy to help you as a couple? Mimi explains: “For me, the most important tools to learn in couples therapy, is firstly how to listen to each other – not to be able to come up with the best counter-attack, but to really understand where your partner is coming from and what your partner is really feeling and needing at that stage.
“Secondly, you will learn how to talk to each other, in a more effective way, in an attempt to really explain to your partner how you might be feeling about a specific issue you are facing.
“Thirdly, couples can learn new skills in solving problems, resolving conflicts and focussing on the solutions, instead of just keeping on reminding each other of all the problems.”
But is couple’s therapy just about your relationship, or can you bring up personal issues too?
“The couples therapy environment can also be a space where the one individual can get support and advice on something they might be dealing with on their own – it can be beneficial for the other person to see their partner in a more vulnerable state, exposing the issues they might be facing, to also help the partners gain more insight into each other as two unique individuals and not just as a couple. It is sometimes a good idea to also go for individual therapy, to help you deal with issues from the past, from before you were in this current relationship, but which might have an impact on the current relationship,” says Mimi.
Mimi says that the amount of sessions a couple can go for depends on them and the issues that need to be worked out.
“It could take anything from one to about six or eight sessions to see a change. It is very important that both partners agree to go for counselling/therapy. It is very difficult to work with a couple where one of the two is forced to be there and doesn’t really want to listen or change. Sometimes, when one of the two is still reluctant, I would encourage the other one to start with individual counselling sessions while we wait for the partner to maybe change their mind or to start noticing the change in the one who is already busy with the counselling, and thus hopefully motivate them to also attend at a later stage.”