Every year gets a little more exciting as trends evolve in the sexual arena. I find that the trends are more explorative and intimate as people are less afraid and are more sexually liberated. It’s an exciting time. Of course not everyone will be inclined to try out new things, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s important to be comfortable when engaging in sexual activity.


This is a reversal of roles where the woman wears a strap-on to penetrate her male partner’s anus. This allows for the stimulation of the prostate gland, which can be pleasurable for some men. This requires plenty of lubrication and an open-minded attitude. Some men are getting over the idea of being called gay for enjoying anal penetration and are being rewarded with great orgasms.

Remote-controlled toys

Many couples are taking foreplay to the next level. Remote-controlled toys, such as vibrating panties or eggs, are being worn by one of the partners while the other has the remote control. This enables your partner to stimulate you while they’re a few metres away. I like this because it’s a little secret between partners. If you’re in a room full of people, it’s a way to let someone know that you’re thinking of them.


This is the emotional or sexual attraction to people, regardless of their gender. Instead of calling this a trend, I feel that more people are admitting to or are being honest about being “sexually fluid”, in that they can be attracted to both men and women. Both men and women can be bisexual.

Full bush

The painful trend to wax the pubic hair from the vulva isn’t considered so hot any more. Many women are letting the hair grow out and opting for a “full bush”, choosing to tidy it up and keep the natural look.

Webcam play

Whether you’re in a long-distance relationship or are away from your partner for a few days, webcam play can be used to keep things heated. It gives you a real-time visual of your partner, which can go a long way towards getting play started.


Also referred to as rimming, this is oral anal play or licking of the anal area. The risks include transmission of sexually transmitted infections and the presence of E. coli. Dental dams are a way to protect yourself during this type of sexual activity. These are designed specifically for oral sex.

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