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'The guy always pays' - 4 other outdated dating rules that might not work today

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The world of dating has changed. Now it’s swipe, like, text and two days later, you are in a new relationship. And three days after that, it’s on to the next swipe if things don’t work out.

And on it goes. And dates no longer include just sitting across from each other at restaurants getting to know each other, now it’s hiking, boating, running or picnic dates.

But with everything that’s changed, some things have remained the same, including the stereotypes around dating.

Here, we break down five outdated dating rules that no longer work in today’s scene.

1. 'Only date your type'

This leads a lot of people astray. Don’t be too picky. Have standards, yes, but also check whether your expectations are helping you, or turning potential baes away. This could be costing you happiness with someone you least expected. Rather get to know someone before deciding they are not right for you.

2. 'Never ask a guy out'

Back in the days, a woman was seen too desperate, aggressive, or needy if she took the initiative. Welcome to 2019, where gender roles and expectations no longer rule. Besides, making the first move might save you a lot of time and energy later on, so go ahead and slide into his DMs, already! Assertiveness should be a desirable quality in a woman in the 21st century.

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3. 'Avoid last minute dates'

This also ties in with worrying about looking desperate if you said yes for a spur-of-the-moment date. With everyone constantly on their phones and sharing information via social media, your potential partner could see your Instagram Story about being bored and invite you to hang out right then and there. Girl, say yes!

4. 'The guy always pays'

Originally, men paid the bill because it was associated with power. Also, men used their money as some sort of power tool to control the relationship. These days, it’s unfair to expect one partner to always settle the bill. So, if your date offers, it’s okay – I mean, who turns down free food? Bottom line is that it doesn’t really matter who pays, you can always split the bill in half.

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5. 'Play hard to get'

Pretending to “care less” in a relationship has, for some reason, always been a power play. However, that is very manipulative and so outdated, not to mention very risky! What if the lack of affection shown makes the person conclude that you are just not into them? The truth is that we’re supposed to care about our partner when in a relationship. Vulnerability goes hand-in-hand with being in a relationship.

Additional reporting: Essence and Elite Daily

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