Influential women such as Hillary Clinton and Beyoncé Knowles reconciled with their partners after learning their husbands had cheated on them - and so have many ordinary women.

But not without criticism.

Why do we tend to be judgmental towards our friends and family when they decide to go back to the partners who cheated on them? 

There was an awkward moment between Kim Kardashian and her sister Khloe this week on Watch what happens live! 

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Kourtney was asked whether or not she would have stayed with Tristan Thompson had she been in Khloe's shoes. Kourtney said that she would, explaining that she agrees with her sister's decision to stick by Tristan, the father of her baby.

But then Kim quickly chimed in as well in support of Kourtney's stance, but ended up implying that everyone thinks Khloe is an “idiot” for staying with Tristan. 

“It’s so easy and quick to be like, ‘leave him, leave him,'” Kim said. "It’s so much harder to stay and have the whole public think you are an idiot for staying,” KKW continued.

This is a classic example of how uncomfortable it can be to discuss someone's decision to stay with a partner who has been unfaithful to them. It also highlights the criticism and shame that women who forgive infidelity have to endure. 

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Ever since word got out that local celebrities DJ Zinhle and AKA may have rekindled their love, Twitter users have been questioning why she would go back to the rapper after everything he put her through.

We spoke to relationship expert Paula Quinsee, who says women get criticised whatever direction they take when they’ve been cheated on. 

She explains that when a woman refuses to forgive their partner’s indiscretion, they will be criticised for straying from their ‘duty’ of keeping the family together.

“At the same time, women are being criticised for staying in a relationship where their partner has cheated and why they stand for such behaviour when they don’t have to,” she explains.

"Times have changed and a cultural shift is taking place. While divorce carried the stigma, staying where you've experienced betrayal is the new ‘shame’," Paula explains further. 

“Traditionally, it has been a common stereotypical label that men have or will at some point cheat, almost like it is acceptable behaviour.

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However, in today’s modern world more women are standing up for themselves, their needs, their rights and are becoming less tolerant of unfair play,” she said.

According to The state of affairs:Rethinking infidelity by couples' therapist Esther Perel, there is no shame in forgiveness after infidelity.

“It’s a radical approach, to say the least, but one that is geared towards eradicating the humiliation spouses often feel if they stay in a relationship after one partner has been unfaithful,” she writes in the book. 

According to Paula, we need to stop being too judgmental, because whether a woman is willing to forgive infidelity or not is a personal decision.

The pain women feel already runs very deep without loved one's adding salt to injury. 

However if she does decide to forgive- “It’s a tall ask and can take up to two years to rebuild the trust again,” says Paula. 

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She advises that repairing and rebuilding a relationship after infidelity takes time, a genuine show of remorse and the commitment and willingness to rebuild the trust and the relationship.

"Starting with what wasn’t working. Healing has to take place before growth can move the relationship forward," she recommends.

In a Reddit thread, someone asked users to share stories of why they decided to give a second chance to their significant others who cheated on them.

Check it out to see how much you relate to some of their responses. 

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