That light-headedness, tingling sensation throughout the body and contractions in the pelvic area.

They’re great when they happen, but not every woman has the pleasure of orgasm. Aside from lack of proper stimulation, some subconsciously impose on themselves psychological barriers that prevent them from reaching climax.

Of the already small percentage of women who orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris, only 30% are able to reach climax from penetration.

Although small, the clitoris has more nerve endings, which can lead to immense pleasure. It is made up of 8 000 sensory nerve endings (the penis has about half of that) and is said to be the only part of the body that exists purely for sexual pleasure.

It is easier to pay attention to it during foreplay, but it can be tricky finding positions in which the clitoris is stimulated during penetration.

With girl on top, you can rub up against his pubic bone. You can ask him to stroke you with his finger or take matters into your own hands.

Some of us may have seen women gushing from their vaginas in pornography. Commonly referred to as squirting, it is the expulsion of a clear fluid from the urethra.

It is a great feeling when it happens. Sometimes it is accompanied by an orgasm and sometimes not.

The type of orgasm accompanied by squirting is the one achieved from stimulation of the skene gland, which is located near the urethra.

This general area is called the G-spot.

Anatomically, we should all be able to squirt, but even the women who do will tell you it doesn’t happen every time they have sex, and happens with some partners but not with others.

Research published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in December 2014 found that the fluid excreted during squirting is actually involuntary urination.

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