Bonang wears a ring which she says is her ‘stop nonsense’ - here’s how other women discourage unwanted suitors from pursuing them
Bonang Matheba’s “stop nonsense” ring is one of the many relatable things about Bonang. Of course, not many of us are able to walk around with a giant rock on our fingers, many women have their own versions of the “stop nonsense” ring.
“I think men, in general, are a tough category - they’re a very tough wall to breakdown,” Bonang says so eloquently on the U.S morning radio show, The Breakfast Club.
Traditionally, rings have had specific meanings for women – from the promise ring, to the engagement ring, to the wedding, and dare I say, the ‘purity’ ring. For millennial women, and even some women before our generation, a new meaning has been given to the band around the ring finger – especially the one on the left-hand side.
Different women wear the rings on their left ring fingers for various reasons, whether it’s deterring unwanted advances from men or for avoiding nagging questions about when you’re getting married, there’s plenty of ‘nonsense’ that needs ‘stopping’.
Often it’s just easy to side-step confrontation with men particularly because, as Kendyl Klein relays her experience on the Washington Post, “I didn’t want to make him angry. I didn’t know his temper, and I didn’t want to make the situation worse.”
Wearing a ring on your left ring finger is on the same level as the famous movie and television trope of a woman pretending to be romantically involved with a man in the vicinity, or women giving strange men their fake names and cell numbers. It’s a wicked way of survival but it can get you off the hook at times.
Women have had to get even more creative with how we navigate men’s advances, and a stop nonsense ring is certainly a way to do it. The social media users agree:
In the case below, the stop nonsense way of avoidance has been passed down to a generation:
What do you think can be done for there to no longer be a need for a "stop nonsense" ring? Let us know here.
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