Rihanna, Minnie Dlamini Jones and pregnancy speculation - why it’s inappropriate to assume people are pregnant
When Grammy award-winning artist Rihanna's weight gain became visible circa 2017, it initially sparked pregnancy rumours and an onslaught of articles about her curvier figure.
And while she's always managed to retort with sassy and confident clapbacks, it's not fair to make assumptions about her or any woman's reproductive developments just because they don't have flat tums even in the fertile year of 2019 that is so abundant with pregnancy announcements.
This is why the re-emergence of Rihanna pregnancy rumours this past weekend was rather irksome. When the internet caught sight of Rih's small fupa through her black velvet gown that she wore to her 2019 Diamond Ball, they were convinced there's a baby on the way, and so the frenzy erupted...
And if you search "Rihanna pregnant" on Twitter, you'll have plenty more speculations to scroll through.
In a 10-minute Vogue makeup tutorial, the Fenty Beauty founder had alluded to having a few misgivings about her weight, mentioning that she learnt to contour when she gained weight, having also walked off camera briefly at the beginning of the video, saying "I feel fat".
Is it a coincidence then that the day after social media confirmed what she hasn't announced, Rihanna was spotted in public shielded her abdomen with a handbag?
Maybe not. The same way that she may or may not be expecting a child, and until she says anything, it's not anyone's business.
This article was in defense of local TV personality Minnie Dlamini Jones, who much like Rihanna, has been the subject of pregnancy speculations on numerous occasions since she tied the knot.
Business is going well...Let’s trust in God’s timing for the arrival of my offspring ???? We also need to be cognizant of how insensitive it is to speculate about pregnancy. You don’t know my journey or what I’ve been through or go through. Let’s just think before we tweet please???— Minnie Dlamini Jones (@MinnieDlamini) February 5, 2019
This was not the first time Minnie who once spoke candidly about her weight insecurities during a radio interview with 5FM talk show host Thando Thabethe, had slammed pregnancy speculations.
Late in 2018, the 28-year-old actress shared sexy snaps of herself while on a desert vacation with her best friend which she captioned, “No matter your size, shape (Or pregnancy rumors) Love your body, celebrate it!”
In another previous Instagram post, Minnie shared a snap of herself in a bikini in which she explained in the captioned how, “thin” she was during that period and that she never wanted to, “to be this skinny again.”
So what is the big deal surrounding weight gain and pregnancy especially after one ties the knot?
According to Parent24, society places a high amount of pressure on women who recently got married when it comes to childbearing. The latter is simply because childbearing becomes a primary goal of marriage.
Imagine how draining it must be have to constantly have to explain your fupa to strangers simply because you’ve tied the knot or you're in a relationship – it’s quite disheartening to know that even in 2019 this mentality still exists.
During an interview on daytime talk show Real Talk with former host Anele Mdoda, Minnie rubbished all pregnancy claims further stating that at the time she and hubby Quinton weren’t even trying. Perhaps until she publicly discloses that she’s doing so we should simply respect her privacy.
Actress Tia Mowry went through the same insensitive comments when she put on some weight in 2015.
In an interview with Huffpost Live, she said pregnancy rumors are based on assumptions about how she should look and what kind of body she should have.
“Asking a woman if she’s pregnant is a form of body shaming,” she explained.
“We live in a society that is so obsessed with being perfect … Why can’t we just be us?”
It’s probably high time we started to learn to respect people’s wombs and their weight – whether they’re in the spotlight or not. Pregnancy assumptions are not only invasive, but they can also trigger insecurities.
So until someone explicitly announces that they are pregnant, it's best to assume that they're not.
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