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Whether it’s plastic, paper or even vintage wear – the art
of reusing is, at present, all the rage.
But when it comes to an engagement ring, recycling will forever be a complete no-no.
When you propose your partner expects their hand to be adorned with a ring specially picked for them.
There’s the exception of an heirloom ring, the family treasure that’s been passed down from one generation to the next. But that’s where it ends.
One Reddit user revealed her partner had plans to propose to her with a ring he’d especially designed and made for his ex, Mirror Online writes.
The unknown woman explained her boyfriend and his ex had broken up three years before, however during their four-year relationship he decided to pop the question.
So he spent “thousands of dollars” ordering a customised ring from overseas.
“I’m not sure what the actual value of the ring was, but according to him he spent a few thousand dollars on the ring in total,” the woman continued. “This wasn’t even including the money spent flying to-and-fro.”
But he never went down on bended knee because the woman repeatedly broke his heart until he eventually had enough and left her.
He later met his current girlfriend and “saw a future with her and wanted to marry”.
“He asked if I was okay with him giving me the old ring because it’s just been sitting in his cupboard and he felt like there was finally a purpose to that old ring.”
The woman added although she saw practicality in it (like that they could save and spend the money on more important things) a part of her can’t get over the fact that the ring was originally meant for someone else.
"He assured me she never wore it, but I just don't want something that wasn't made for me. Am I being unreasonable?” she asked. “I don't need an expensive ring and I don't need diamonds but I'd like the ring to be bought with me in mind."
Fellow users were horrified, pointing out she deserved her own ring – no two ways about it.
“No girl! You’re not being unreasonable,” one user assured her. “Rings carry stories and history. If it’s not a story you want to carry around on your finger for the rest of your relationship, you’re totally within your rights. Also, that ring was customised for another woman, not for you. Get another ring!”
Others advised her on how to reach a compromise.
“As a jeweller, I'd say keep the diamond and reset it. A diamond is a diamond and the mounting should be just for you,” someone recommended.
And it seemed the woman might just follow this sage advice.
“I love the idea of repurposing the stone into a different piece of jewellery as well,” she replied.
“He is a fantastic guy, really independent, loves his family, also the only guy that really made me feel like I was important. [I] wouldn’t exactly call him cheap because he’s always been generous in offering help to me and his friends financially. But I guess he was just thinking too practically about this situation.”
Way, way too practically if you ask us.
SOURCES: MIRROR.CO.UK, THISINSIDER.COM, THATSLIFE.COM.AU, REDDIT.COM
