Linda Doktar (34), from the Gold Coast in Australia, found herself newly single last year – and decided to embark on a journey of healing and reaffirmation.
On Valentine’s Day last year, the conscious coach decided to hold a self-marriage ceremony to confirm the emotional journey she’d been through.
Linda’s close friend, Ej, who is a relationship coach, introduced her to the idea of a self-marriage ceremony.
“Ej had just begun to hold these ceremonies for others, and I thought this was a beautiful concept to symbolise my journey into loving and honouring myself on a deeper level,” Linda said in a recent interview.
“I thought this was a beautiful concept to symbolise my journey into loving and honouring myself on a deeper level.
“Ej asked me to write my vows and commitments for my special day. She also asked me to choose a dress and a song that would mean a lot to me.”
Linda kept the ceremony small and intimate, and chose not to invite people so she could focus on herself.
“There was a red satin walkway, lined with rose petals and flowers, it was beautiful.
“As the ceremony progressed, I read my vows and commitments out loud to myself, while looking into a hand-held mirror.
”I didn’t have any guests, it was just Ej and her two assistants for the photos.
“When I look back at my ceremony I smile because it reminds me of a turning point in my life when I decided to connect to deeper levels of self-love and self-connection.”
Although she believes marrying herself won’t close her off to relationships with other people, Linda wanted to confirm the love and respect she holds for herself through self-marriage.
“The only person I have to live with for 24 hours a day for the rest of my life is myself,” sge said.
“I believe the most important relationship I’ll ever have is with myself. I know and understand the quality of the relationship we have with ourselves determines the quality of experiences we have with others.
“After being disconnected from myself for so many years, I now plan to continue on my journey of self-love. This has significantly improved the state of my internal happiness and the relationship and connections I now experience outside of myself.”
Source: Magazine Features