It’s easy to tell someone to break-up with a cheating partner, but it’s a completely different story when it all happens to you – then, it’s not so easy to just pack up and go. But, sometimes leaving may be the best thing to do…
Though forgiving a cheater is becoming more common these days the situation can knock down your self-worth, physical and emotional health. Here some of the reasons why, you may want to let go of a cheating partner:
You put your health at riskThis is an obvious reason and you’ve probably heard it a million times already, but it’s one you have to seriously consider. If your partner has cheated just once, or is a serial cheat, you are increasing your own chances of picking up diseases. Your partner might have been practicing unsafe sex with other women, collecting all the nasty and bringing them home to you. So, think about it; is he worth your life?
He will cheat againIf you take him back, you’re giving him a green light that his actions have no consequences. Even if you make that person swear to never cheat again, he will still cheat because he knows you will take him back again as always. After all, if he cheated once and you took him back, why wouldn’t you take him back again? As a saying goes “once a cheater always a cheater.” So don’t be surprised if he cheats again.
You know he’s been intimate with someone elseThe image of the person you love touching and being intimate with someone else can be unbelievable taunting. Whenever you get intimate you’ll always think what he’s doing with you is what he did with the other woman. And in this you suffer alone because ‘you shouldn’t bring up old issues’. Don’t confuse what you’re offered for what you’re worth.
You’ve lost trustTrust is the cornerstone of every relationship, without it, what’s the point of being in a relationship. Once you lose trust in your partner it changes your relationship for the worse. You’ll look like the mad one trying to keep tabs on him all the time, and questioning everything he says. It takes a long time to regain trust, if not impossible to ever regain it.
He doesn’t love youThis may be the last thing you want to hear, but the truth is, the foundation of love is respect. If someone cheats on you, that is one of the most extreme forms of disrespect to you. You can’t love someone without respecting them. The thought of being with someone shouldn’t even cross his mind.
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