The festive season is not always a time of cheer and laughter for everybody.

While some may look forward to seeing loved ones and being welcomed by the aroma of homecooked food upon their landing, there are young adults who would much rather sit the whole holiday out or are just not able to make it for Christmas.

There is a number of reasons for this. Avoiding a toxic family dynamic is one of them.

Family business

As people grow older, they realise the tinsel that's been glittering all these years is, in fact, not gold.

Between body shaming comments, homophobic family members, questions about marriage, graduation, requests for money, or other domestic differences, angst about going home is bound to heighten. 

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There is another trigger associated with not wanting to return home for Christmas, though - losing a loved one.

As explained by Dessy Tzoneva from the SA Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) to TimesLive, overcoming grief may be harder during the festive season. 

"It can be very hard for people to experience their first Christmas without a loved one," Tzoneva explained. 

If this is yours or a close friend's reality, SADAG's helpline remains open during the festive season. 

Call: 0800 70 80 90

"We mind our own business"

The other side of the family coin is that not all families have Christmas traditions. I spoke to 23-year-old *Claire, who told me the following about her family dynamic.

"The reason I don’t enjoy going home for Christmas is the fact that my family doesn’t really do anything special, so there’s no real reason to be there. We aren’t a close knit family."

When asked if lunch at someone else's home would make her 25th December more festive, she revealed that she would prefer not to.

"I don't think I’d like to visit anyone else’s family, because I don’t enjoy all the fussiness that comes with a Christmas dinner or party, especially not in the company of strangers. Also, I like to spend my time relaxed and in my comfort zone, pretending to be jolly becomes too much for me."

READ MORE: Surviving Christmas in the Mother City alone

Business as usual

Unfortunately, not everyone will have the privilege of going home this Christmas due to work. It's either they can't get leave, it doesn't make financial sense to travel home for such a short period or they will literally be clocking in at work on Christmas. 

Inconvenient business

eNCA has just recently reported that passengers have been stranded at Park Station for two days now due to long distance bus strikes. "Some of these passengers had booked their tickets as far back as two months ago," Lindokuhle Xulu reports:

What this means is that if the bus strike does not get resolved, there is a possibility that some people will not be able to unite with their families as they had planned. Finding alternative means of transport may also be costly, so staying put is the only option some have for now.

Now it's your business

This is where you, as a friend, can step in if one (or more) of your friends' situations has been described above. 

Firstly, don't make it a pity party. Your role is to merely offer a feel-good outlet to them. Should they decline, respect their decision as well without taking it personally. As *Claire stated, being around unfamiliar faces can make one uncomfortable. 

This is what you can offer:

I spotted this old tweet on Twitter a few days ago and found quite admirable. It may be an oldie, but it's definitely a goodie. If you have the capacity, you can avail your table to friends and strangers alike:

And more recently, a similar offer came up:

Of course, with the permission of your family, you can also invite your friend to share Christmas lunch with your family. If it makes them feel better so they don't like they're sponging off you, you can suggest that they also bring a dish. 

If this is something either parties are not comfortable with, suggest to meet up after lunch for your own Christmas celebrations. Who knows, it might even be the start of new traditions. 

Lastly, if you are part of a group that is stuck in a concrete jungle because you all have work commitments, then you're in good company. Plan a Christmas party with these mates as if they were your family. 

I know two groups of young professionals who do this every year successfully. 

Here's ho-ho-hoping this brings some joy to a friend or two. 

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