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As a 30 something year old woman who is a singleton, I tend to find on all my social media platforms pictures of Weddings and Babies.
So it seems everyone I know is getting married or having babies and, as for me, I am just getting more amazing; just like a bottle of red wine.
During Love Month I emptied some emotional baggage on my personal blog that made me realise its okay to be a singleton.
Since returning to South Africa in 2010, I have been single due to a lack of men who interest me and hold my attention.
I realised my choice has its moments and, like Bridget Jones, I have days where all I do is get soppy, watch chick flicks, listen to love ballads and eat junk food.
BUT I have learnt it's okay to feel this way about my singleton life.
On Valentines Day, I put on my big girl panties and threw caution to the wind, acting as if it was Leap Year.
The so called "Knight in shining armour" ended up been an idiot in tinfoil masquerading as a true Knight. This experience got me thinking and lead me to think its okay to be a singleton and not to be mesmerised by fakeness.
I then read up some famous Carrie Bradshaw quotes on being a singleton and it all kinda made more sense:
1) "Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with."
2) "I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love."
3) "Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better."
4) "The fact is, sometimes it’s really hard to walk in a single woman’s shoes. That’s why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun."
5) "After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot."
All of this Carrie wisdom got me thinking and made me realise its okay to be a singleton waiting for the butterflies in the tummy moment rather than settle for the sake of settling or a Facebook update. Being a singleton definitely has its perks :
1) I can spend my money on frivolous things like handbags and shoes.
2) I can spend Saturday night out with the girls and not feel guilty.
3) I can stay in my pjs all day on a Sunday.
4) I can go out without any make-up on.
BUT most for all I can count each blessing in my life, especially my friends who support my dreams, my passions and encourage me to pursue my hearts desires no matter how crazy they are.
At this point in time I am in a Happy Place, working on several projects, enjoying indulging in reading a good book, laughing loads and living life.
It doesn't mean I don't dream of meeting Mr Big, living the ultimate Love story and annoying everyone on Social Media with my constant Love updates BUT for now being a singleton is... okay.
Find more from Verushka on her blog.
Follow Women24 on Twitter or like us on Facebook.
So it seems everyone I know is getting married or having babies and, as for me, I am just getting more amazing; just like a bottle of red wine.
During Love Month I emptied some emotional baggage on my personal blog that made me realise its okay to be a singleton.
Since returning to South Africa in 2010, I have been single due to a lack of men who interest me and hold my attention.
I realised my choice has its moments and, like Bridget Jones, I have days where all I do is get soppy, watch chick flicks, listen to love ballads and eat junk food.
BUT I have learnt it's okay to feel this way about my singleton life.
On Valentines Day, I put on my big girl panties and threw caution to the wind, acting as if it was Leap Year.
The so called "Knight in shining armour" ended up been an idiot in tinfoil masquerading as a true Knight. This experience got me thinking and lead me to think its okay to be a singleton and not to be mesmerised by fakeness.
I then read up some famous Carrie Bradshaw quotes on being a singleton and it all kinda made more sense:
1) "Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with."
2) "I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love."
3) "Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better."
4) "The fact is, sometimes it’s really hard to walk in a single woman’s shoes. That’s why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun."
5) "After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot."
All of this Carrie wisdom got me thinking and made me realise its okay to be a singleton waiting for the butterflies in the tummy moment rather than settle for the sake of settling or a Facebook update. Being a singleton definitely has its perks :
1) I can spend my money on frivolous things like handbags and shoes.
2) I can spend Saturday night out with the girls and not feel guilty.
3) I can stay in my pjs all day on a Sunday.
4) I can go out without any make-up on.
BUT most for all I can count each blessing in my life, especially my friends who support my dreams, my passions and encourage me to pursue my hearts desires no matter how crazy they are.
At this point in time I am in a Happy Place, working on several projects, enjoying indulging in reading a good book, laughing loads and living life.
It doesn't mean I don't dream of meeting Mr Big, living the ultimate Love story and annoying everyone on Social Media with my constant Love updates BUT for now being a singleton is... okay.
Find more from Verushka on her blog.
Follow Women24 on Twitter or like us on Facebook.
