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Tiffany Haddish seems to be taking over the world. Ever since her break out role in 2017’s Girls Trip, she’s been going places and kicking ass while doing things like hosting SNL, presenting at the Oscars and now she’s featured in a candid in Glamour interview.
In the interview she opens up about a lot of ,things but the one thing I found the most interesting is how she says her bold persona is a defence mechanism and that she is seen as aggressive with men in order to defend herself.
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"I noticed that men are afraid of women that are aggressive. So to protect myself I become semi-aggressive," she said. "You hear about, 'Tiffany always hitting on somebody,' but that’s to keep them from hitting on me."
The star (who has previously opened up about being raped by a police cadet when she was 17 years old) also said, “I’ve had experiences where directors or producers are like, ‘You want this job?’ I might get real bossy and say, ‘First off, don’t nobody want to see your little dick!’ I get loud, all that.'”
Now I relate to Tiffany’s issue because I do the same thing.
When I was still single, I was always the one who messaged first, who flirted unashamedly and who told the guy to go away if he became too much or if I knew it wasn’t going anywhere.
And it actually worked for me.
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I may not have gone on as many dates as some people, but as a fat woman I felt like I needed to up my game in order to ensure success in my dating life.
And it got me the relationship I’m in now.
I was the one who said “I like you” first to my boyfriend. I was the one who said let’s give this a try even though I thought what I wanted at the time was to be single and see lots of different people. I eventually decided that I liked this guy and I had a feeling he liked me too, but he wasn’t doing anything about it, so I decided to take the reigns and make the first move.
Although I did leave him to start off the “so, are we dating now?” conversation. I couldn’t do all the hard work.
So while being “aggressive” especially in your dating life might seem a bit much, it doesn’t mean it can’t or won’t work.
So if you’re stuck waiting for some guy to get back to you, or have lots of Tinder matches, but no messages yet, then take a page out of my book and be a little more aggressive with your dating life and take it into your own hands.
