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- The rules about everything in life are constantly changing, and that includes vacations.
- A former couple went to Bali, Indonesia, seven months after breaking up.
- The reason was that the trip was non-refundable; Dr Angela Jones weighs in on this.
Going on vacation is everyone's favourite.
And while we all love a relaxing moment, are there rules about who you can and cannot go on vacation with? For example, can exes go on a nice relaxing vacation together? Well, one former couple tried it out.
A woman named Mimi shared her experience travelling to Bali, Indonesia, with her ex, who she had broken up with seven months earlier. They decided to go on vacation together since they booked a non-refundable trip during happier times.
Dr Angela Jones weighs in on the conversation.
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"I mean, no, don't go on vacation with your ex. But they did have a non-refundable trip, and when I was looking at her journey, I saw that she mentioned that they were both too stubborn to pass on the trip, and it seemed that the trip was okay," she says.
"So, for whatever reason, they ended their relationship, it wasn't too traumatic, and there was probably no abuse, just maybe [they were] sick of each other."
She continued to add that although this couple had a good time generally, she doesn't think it's a good idea, especially when it's been a traumatic breakup.
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"It really depends... case by case because there is a possibility of you guys coming back together as a couple," says Dr Angela.
She also spoke of jealousy if the breakup wasn't good or if there's a chance one person may hook up or be flirty with someone else on the trip.
"If it was a vicious breakup and your ex is spiteful, you have to ask yourself if it's really wise for your mental health to go across the world with someone who is probably going to antagonise you and make you feel uncomfortable. You need to be over this person before going on the trip with them. Rather weigh out the pros and cons," she says.
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She says the money spent on the trip is better lost if it will compromise your peace of mind. "Nothing is ever worth your peace of mind. You would rather lose money than put yourself in a space of turmoil. Rather sell the ticket to someone else, maybe one of his friends," she says.
Although the idea of travelling with your ex may be daunting, there is still a potential to reconcile. "Don't go into the trip with the hope that you will reconcile," she concludes.
