Divorced, broken up – here's what you need to know about finding love the second time around

Breakups are so hard, and they suck. For both parties.

"I just can't go back out there again," they'll sigh, nodding — towards the sticky dancefloor of an imaginary neon-lit meat market packed with heartbreakers, narcissists, and no-hopers. After being battered by a brutal split, some download the dating-is-dangerous message onto their mental hard drives. For many, bars and clubs may no longer suit their age, parenting status, or appetite for vodka.