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- When two women went on a date with their kung-fu teacher, they fell in love.
- However, their initial relationship didn't work out, but they eventually rekindled their romance.
- The trio is now living together and planning to have a baby between the three of them - by transferring one woman's eggs to the other.
Yoga instructor, Ludmila Oliveria Batista (37) from Brasilia, Brazil, met Kung Fu and Tai Chi teacher Washington Bezerra (40) from São Paulo, Brazil, at his Kung Fu and Tai Chi school in September 2017 when Ludmila started attending Washington's classes to learn Kung Fu.
The two began dating in March 2018. They then met Aline Roberta Bencke Candatten Bezerra (31) from Mato Grosso, Brazil, through Washington's martial arts school based in Cuiabá, Mato Grosso, Brazil.
When the three first met, they realised they had a spark and went on a date as a triad on June 21, 2018. Sadly, it didn't work out on the first attempt, and soon after, Ludmila and Washington broke up.
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Not long after the break-up, Aline and Washington began dating. They spent two years together until they reconnected with Ludmila in November 2020. The trio started to talk and get to know each other again, discovering that they all got along well - so it seemed only natural that they teamed up and entered a polyamorous relationship together.
They made it official in December 2020. They have lived and loved as a throuple. The trio lives with Washington's two youngest children, Helena (7) and Dante (5). They share the parenting responsibilities of Helena and Dante, with the three of them taking care of all parts of the children's routine and education.
They say that they will explain their relationship to the children one day, and they try to be as honest as possible about the complexities of love.
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They plan to get married and have discussed the possibility of having a baby. Due to Aline's anxieties around conceiving, they have discussed the possibility of Ludmilla donating eggs for Aline to carry the baby.
"I'm the one who wants to conceive. I've been having trouble, so we went to see a doctor about it," says Aline. "The doctor suggested that Ludmilla could donate the eggs for me to carry the child. Washington was very emotional about the possibility of the three of us having a baby together."
Aline says the message she would like to convey is that love is love.
"Polyamory is just a way to love - even if you are not in a polyamorous or open relationship, you may fall in love with more than one person," she says adding that she still hasn't told her father about her relationship while her mom was wary at the beginning of the relationship.
"Once she saw that it was my choice and I was happy, she was okay with it too," says Aline.
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The trio admits that jealousy can rear its head sometimes, but when it happens, they try to understand and talk about it. They believe that communicating what they need, want, and expect is crucial in every relationship, not just romance.
"Polyamory is common in human beings, and in all relationships except romance, we are polyamorous, for example with friends, siblings and relatives," says Washington.
"People consider romantic polyamory to be different and have difficulty accepting that you can love more than one person at the same time. It's just like any other relationship, but with three people in it. We need to work out things, like where we sleep and with who, and how to spend time as a couple without the other feeling left out."
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The three were brought together by their mutual love of martial arts. Washington grew up in a favela in São Paulo and used Kung Fu as an opportunity to escape the violence of his hometown.
Ludmila describes herself as the 'psychedelic sheep' of her family and says she saw going to Cuiabá to train in Tai Chi as another adventure. Aline had always loved to learn about different languages and cultures - she grew up watching Kung Fu movies and credits them for her love of Asian culture.
"Life is made of emotional messes, and polyamory in a triad is just one of them," says Ludmila. "My family think the most important thing is that I am happy in my choices, so they are accepting of the triad. I think raising a child together as a throuple will make it easier, but this may just be an illusion."
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