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- Is there a limit on how much should the bridal party pay for a wedding, which they were invited to?
- Brides often expect the wedding party to pay an unreasonable amount for accommodation, shoes, transport, and dresses.
- One bridesmaid took to Reddit to share that she thinks the bride’s demands are too much.
A frustrated woman took to Reddit to explain how her bride-to-be friend is demanding a lot from the bridal party.
The bride, B, is getting married to her long-distance boyfriend of six months.
“I live in a city about a 16h drive away from where B lives. However, the groom also lives in a different city from the bride and me. She will be getting married on her Groom's farm in a different state about 6 hours away from me,” she says.
She explains that everything went south when B’s first list of requirements emerged in the wedding party’s group chat.
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The list of requirements:
- Makeup and hair must be professionally done and paid for by bridesmaids
- We must purchase nude flats, and we may not wear heels as she is worried she and her groom will look shorter than us
- We must wear the jewellery of her choice (to be fair to her, she said this would be a "borrowed" gift to us once she decides what "look" she is going for)
- Nails must be bear, or in the mauve colour she has selected for her dress
- The dress must be from the local boutique (16 hours drive or a 3-hour flight away from me and must be floor length with straps). The boutique doesn't ship, but my sister is picking it up, trying it on, and sending pics.
“I texted her explaining I'm traveling for the wedding, and I'm happy to pay the accommodation, airfare, and for the dress,” she shares.
“I explained that I am happy to pay for the usual things but that my budget wouldn't allow for professional hair, makeup, and new shoes. She said she would speak to her groom about allowing me to stay on the farm property but that the makeup was non-negotiable,”
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However, the bride later texted the bridesmaid saying she would have to renege on the offer she made to let her stay in the farmhouse on the night after the wedding.
The bride reserved an Air BnB in the city for $200 (R3000) a night for the wedding party and suggested the bridesmaid should stay in the Air BnB she booked since there is a two-night minimum.
“I politely declined and said I would try to find accommodations in the city for the night after the wedding since there are some reasonable places to stay. I asked if there would be anyone to transport me back to the city since no cabs or public transportation will go there," explains the bridesmaid.
The bride refused to arrange transportation for the bridesmaid unless she stayed in the Air BnB and pay her back for the cost of it.
"She said I may bring a tent, or I have to figure it out myself,” the bridesmaid says.
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One Reddit user commented: “And all of this for a 6-month-old relationship. Brides have some of the most extreme cases of delusion/entitlement I’ve ever seen.”
Another user commented, “As someone planning a wedding myself, I would NEVER demand my bridesmaids spend this much on something this SPECIFIC. She should be footing that bill. I wouldn’t bother going to a wedding where I’d have to spend $1300 (R19 000) just for the wedding.”
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Source: Reddit
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