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- A Reddit father of a bride-to-be sparked outrage online by saying that he will not walk his young daughter down the aisle alongside her stepfather.
- The bride's father says his 22-year-old daughter is getting married and wants both of her father figures to be present.
- But the man refuses to share the limelight with the man who helped raise his daughter.
A Reddit user was stunned when his daughter, Chloe, who he hadn't seen until she was 16, asked him to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day. But he was even more surprised when he discovered she had also asked her stepfather, who had helped raise her, the same.
"I was taken aback when she told me she was considering having me AND her stepdad walk her down the aisle. I went to have a conversation with her to talk about how uncomfortable I was with this idea. She talked about how her stepdad played a huge part in her life and how she wanted to honour that by including him," says the father.
"I told her, of course, and I absolutely won't invalidate her feelings or deny how much of a good influence her stepdad's been, but I just don't feel comfortable with it and told her it'd be okay if I were just a guest there, but she said she wants me to be part of this so bad."
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The father explained that the argument got heated as Chloe started complaining about how he was ruining her wedding and making it about his resentment towards her stepdad. The argument escalated to the point where the father said he wouldn't come to the wedding if she continued to force the issue.
"Her mom contacted me, calling me selfish, jealous, spiteful and whatnot, claiming I was willing to hurt Chloe's feelings out of spite just because she dared show appreciation for the man who stepped up and was more of a parent to her more than I'll ever be," explains the father.
"Chloe isn't answering my phone calls, I tried speaking to her fiancé, and he said Chloe is upset by the fact I put my feelings above hers and disrespected her stepdad by asking her to choose between us."
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One Reddit user commented: "You've been gone the vast majority of her life so far, and she still wants to include you in her wedding, even though you didn't raise her? And your response to that is to make it about yourself?"
Another said: "Ask yourself what exactly it is that makes you feel this uncomfortable? I cannot imagine how this would be uncomfortable. In my opinion, it is beautiful to recognise the fact that you have both been an important part of her life, and she appreciates you both.
"I would be proud of my daughter to be so nice, and I would also be proud of father and stepfather to do the symbolic act of walking her down the aisle together because, in this act, they both show appreciation for the important role they both played in her life towards each other. Whether you like her stepfather or not, if you love your daughter, just walk her down the aisle with her stepfather."
Source: Reddit
