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- A Reddit user has been losing weight, and her soon-to-be sister-in-law is convinced that it is to deliberately outshine her in her upcoming wedding.
- In a Reddit post, the woman explains that she can’t tell her sister-in-law that she has just discovered that she's diabetic.
- The woman has been disinvited from the wedding as she also doesn't have an outfit for the wedding yet and the bride is worried she'll wear something provocative.
In a Reddit post, the 34-year-old woman says that her brother and his fiancé set a date for their wedding, and only told everyone else about it a month ago.
"They found a venue and didn’t want to wait till 2023 as they planned. At the same time I found out that I have diabetes and the doctor told me that I needed to change my lifestyle and shed at least 30kg," she says.
She kept the diagnosis a secret because she says her mother is a hypochondriac and would be highly upset if she knew her daughter had diabetes.
"Living with her 'dying' since she was 30 I also developed a resentment towards everyone who 'complained' about health issues and I don’t want to start doing it now. I simply can’t deal with her right now and beside my dad and my husband nobody knows about it."
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The weight loss has started showing as the woman has already lost 6kg.
“My sister-in-law is now very worried that I am doing this for the wedding. I have always been a bit overweight and a big yoyo dieter," she says.
"It’s been embarrassing always going on a diet and everyone cheering me to then fall back in my old habits and gain everything back and some more. This time I shut up about it. I’m doing it for a totally different reason.”
Her sister-in-law excluded her from her wedding party because she thinks she is keeping her weight loss reason a secret because of malice.
“I don’t know what to do. I don’t trust my secret with her and my brother, yet I feel like I’m ruining her experience. I just don’t feel ready to talk about my illness,” she says.
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She has since received a text from the bride-to-be asking what she planned to wear to the wedding. “I told her I didn’t know. I haven’t thought about it. She then asked me if I could send her pics on the outfit and shoes when I have decided for approval,” she says.
“I called her, and she said she was worried I would choose something very revealing and inappropriate because I used to dress provocatively when I was skinny.”
As a result the woman has been disinvited to her brother’s wedding.
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One Reddit user said: "I've been fat and I've been skinny, I've lost weight, gained weight and lost it again. Some people desperately need a 'fat friend' and will genuinely do anything they can to sabotage weight-loss and get very indignant when their fat friend stops being fat. I don't think I'll ever nail exactly why, but I suspect it's a reliance on being able to fall back on 'I'm not the fattest, laziest, ugliest' and it seems like they'll do whatever they can to hold on to that."
Another user shared some advice saying: “You do not need to give justifications for your weight loss to anyone. You do not need to worry about ruining her experience; that is her doing. Just continue doing your thing. Your focus should be you, your health, your peace, not what she is thinking or going to do next. It is a blessing in disguise when people show you right away who they are. And she did you a favour by excluding you from the wedding party, so you are far away from her drama. Just make sure that your husband is by your side, lending you all the support you need.”
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Sources: Reddit
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