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- Parents make it their mission to raise their children equally, providing them equal opportunities.
- However, they must understand that although raised equally, children might not live equally once they reach adulthood.
- This stepmother expects her working stepson to pay for his stepsister's wedding, despite his upcoming wedding.
When parents raise their children, be it their own or stepchildren, they ensure they're raised equally. However, this mom has taken it too far by trying to force her stepson to pay for her daughter's wedding since he earns a lot.
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Taking to Reddit, a dad shared that he has two children, his 26-year-old son, Tom and 22-year-old stepdaughter, Judy. Tom has a high-paying job, while Judy is still studying. They're both engaged, and the family is expecting to have two weddings soon. "Tom started planning his wedding, and he spent quite a lot of money on it. He and his fiancé chose a nice venue, could afford to invite many guests, and added more food options." Judy told her mother that her brother showed her the venue, and she thought it wasn't fair that Tom spent so much while she and her fiancé struggled to save up for their wedding.
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The dad says he asked his wife what she meant by that, and she responded by saying that people would attend Tom's wedding and say it was great, then attend Judy's three months later, and people would say hers was cheap. The dad responded by saying weddings are different and shouldn't be compared, and that is when the mother came up with the idea that Tom should help Judy finance her wedding. "I laughed it off and said this is not a competition, and weddings are supposed to be about the couple and not what people think."
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The mother then brought up that their children were raised equally, which can't be ruined now. "She brought up that Tom earns a lot of money, so there is no harm in helping his sister by funding her wedding. I told her what my son earns is none of her concern, that's it, and even if he earns a lot, it doesn't mean he's obligated to fund other people's weddings. It's absurd," he wrote.
The mother considered the father passive-aggressive and said he should always encourage Tom and Judy to help each other. Still, the father feels that unless it's an emergency, there's no reason to pressure his son into helping his stepdaughter. The father also added that he wouldn't bother his busy son with this issue, but the mom got even more upset since she felt the dad was not trying to help Judy feel less stressed and more supported with her wedding.
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"I said no, and she got upset and agitated, saying I'm the one who is refusing to help and not Tom, but she's asking me to talk to him, which I'm not going to do." He says they're still arguing about it. Users of the platform took to the comment section to share their opinions, mostly supporting the dad, saying, "The problem with your wife's line of thinking is that there is no end. If Tom funds Judy's wedding, the precedent will be set. He'll have to make sure she gets the same honeymoon, same level of housing and same vacations." Another added that Judy should finish her studies first and then get married, "If she wants a big fancy wedding, she can postpone it and save up."
Source: Reddit
