1. Constantly remind yourself of the experience you want to have. Don't set any limits on yourself. Let your mind conjure up the best situation it can imagine.
2. Visualise yourself having that experience until it becomes a familiar feeling in your body. (This is an excellent meditation exercise.) Very often we have no idea of what it would feel like if we got exactly what we desired. Consequently, if or when we get it, it feels uncomfortable and unfamiliar, and we think something's wrong. We can't trust the happiness we've longed for.
3. Acknowledge or confront and release your fears about what you want. It just seems to be a part of human nature that we want something, yet at the same time we're afraid of having it. This is an excellent journalling opportunity. Write out what you fear, what you think could happen, what you would feel if it happened, what would happen to others as a result of that, and anything else you can think of that keeps you in fear. End this exercise by writing: "I don't choose to have this experience. I choose to _______." Complete the sentence by writing out what you want.
4. Another excellent method for confronting and releasing fear is called the chair exercise. Place two chairs together facing each another. You sit in one and visualise the person you want to talk to, or write that person's name on a piece of paper and place it face up in the other chair. You can also imagine that sitting in the chair is your guardian angel, your best friend, your minister, your mentor, Christ, or any person/spiritual being whom you acknowledge. Talk through your fears with this person or entity. Say anything and everything that comes to your mind. When you've finished, ask for guidance.
5. Examine what you believe about what's true for you. Ask yourself: "Who am I? What do I believe about myself? What do I do to support these beliefs? What makes me happy? What makes me unhappy?" Be sure to write down whatever comes to your mind as you answer these questions, then make sure you acknowledge your answers.
Once you know yourself well you can truly have the life that you want and deserve.
