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Anger doesn’t have to be the draining, overpowering and all-consuming emotion that we know it to be – with a little effort (and some real practice) we can change our perceptions of anger forever.
We all know that anger doesn’t feel good. It eats away at us from the inside and makes us bitter and resentful, which on the outside can make us seem nasty and hostile.
The person affected most by anger is usually the very person feeling it, and with studies suggesting that anger and stress are related to poor health (including damage to the adrenal gland – which in women can lead to reproductive complications), it makes sense to try to adjust our response to anger-inducing situations and avoid putting ourselves in harm’s way.
Below are five methods you can use to help avoid getting swept away by anger.
1. Find the positive group, and stick with them!
Surrounding yourself with positive people, as opposed to the group of moaners and complainers, can help change your perspective on a specific problem. Instead of focusing on the negatives optimistic people turn their minds to solutions, which is exactly the frame of mind you need to adopt when dealing with anger.
2. Breathe deep!
Breathing exercises are extremely useful yet hugely undervalued. When you need to clear your head, relax, or just need a little help falling asleep, breathing exercises can do the trick.
When you are in a situation that triggers your anger, instead of reacting, rather take a second, breathe deeply a few times and try to clear your head. One should never make decisions when angry.
3. Forgive and forget.
What’s that saying? “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.” I couldn’t have said it better myself….
Not moving on from past incidents is detrimental to your own well-being. Unfortunately it’s not always as simple as just forgiving and forgetting, so how about this: Instead of trying to force yourself to forgive when you simply can’t, accept that this is the way you feel and move on. Make peace with your feelings, let go of anger.
4. List the best possible outcomes from the situation.
Step away from the conflict or whatever is making you angry and decide what you really want from the situation. What is the best possible outcome you can realistically foresee?
By doing this you are able to gauge how appropriate your response is in relation to what you wish to achieve.
5. See the silver linings.
From every conflict we face, every adversity we meet and indeed from every time we get angry, there is a lesson to be learnt. It may not be glaringly obvious at first, but believe me it’s there. It may come in the form of a personal realisation, personal growth or an understanding about someone or something, but there is a lesson buried in their just waiting to be discovered.
Staff Training is a soft skills training provider. View our available workshops.
We all know that anger doesn’t feel good. It eats away at us from the inside and makes us bitter and resentful, which on the outside can make us seem nasty and hostile.
The person affected most by anger is usually the very person feeling it, and with studies suggesting that anger and stress are related to poor health (including damage to the adrenal gland – which in women can lead to reproductive complications), it makes sense to try to adjust our response to anger-inducing situations and avoid putting ourselves in harm’s way.
Below are five methods you can use to help avoid getting swept away by anger.
1. Find the positive group, and stick with them!
Surrounding yourself with positive people, as opposed to the group of moaners and complainers, can help change your perspective on a specific problem. Instead of focusing on the negatives optimistic people turn their minds to solutions, which is exactly the frame of mind you need to adopt when dealing with anger.
2. Breathe deep!
Breathing exercises are extremely useful yet hugely undervalued. When you need to clear your head, relax, or just need a little help falling asleep, breathing exercises can do the trick.
When you are in a situation that triggers your anger, instead of reacting, rather take a second, breathe deeply a few times and try to clear your head. One should never make decisions when angry.
3. Forgive and forget.
What’s that saying? “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die.” I couldn’t have said it better myself….
Not moving on from past incidents is detrimental to your own well-being. Unfortunately it’s not always as simple as just forgiving and forgetting, so how about this: Instead of trying to force yourself to forgive when you simply can’t, accept that this is the way you feel and move on. Make peace with your feelings, let go of anger.
4. List the best possible outcomes from the situation.
Step away from the conflict or whatever is making you angry and decide what you really want from the situation. What is the best possible outcome you can realistically foresee?
By doing this you are able to gauge how appropriate your response is in relation to what you wish to achieve.
5. See the silver linings.
From every conflict we face, every adversity we meet and indeed from every time we get angry, there is a lesson to be learnt. It may not be glaringly obvious at first, but believe me it’s there. It may come in the form of a personal realisation, personal growth or an understanding about someone or something, but there is a lesson buried in their just waiting to be discovered.
Staff Training is a soft skills training provider. View our available workshops.
