Arguing with your partner could be a good thing: Here's how to do it right

Is all fair in love and war? Probably not, but experts say when it comes to arguing with the one you love, honest and open verbal sparring may be beneficial to a healthy relationship.

Here’s how to argue effectively:

Fight Lovingly

Many couples are proud that they never argue with their partners, but experts say that way of thinking is a big mistake.

Jim McNulty, professor of psychology at Florida State University, told CNN, “When people avoid ‘fighting,’ they avoid talking. If something's bothering you, I'd rather know it than not know it so that I can maybe do something about it.”

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Timing is Key

Spats occurring in the heat of the moment can take a toll on your heart. Experts say that in trying emotional moments, practice stepping back to take deep breaths.

“In those moments, it's harder to bite your tongue or think through what you're saying before you say it,” says Jim.

“Oftentimes, people regret what they say later on, so try to avoid being in those moments.”

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Nonverbal language

A nasty tone of voice is sure to upset your partner, but experts agree that nonverbal messages can be insulting as well.

“Eye-rolling is one of the worst things you can do. You’re indirectly communicating that the other person’s an idiot.”

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