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Why women should embrace masturbation

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It’s quite unfortunate, in this day and age, that so many women do not feel comfortable masturbating.

The Huffington Post recently reported research showing that most women over the age of 18 have masturbated at least once, but few women do so regularly.

According to Indiana University's National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour, only 7.9% of women between the ages of 25 and 29 masturbate two to three times a week.

This is in stark comparison with men, 23.4% of whom masturbate routinely.

This shows that we ladies still feel that there's something not quite right about fondling oneself. 

But nothing could be further from the truth.

Your body is going to be with you for the rest of your life and you owe it to yourself to become besties and to be absolutely comfortable with every inch of it, so that any time you not feeling great you can boost your spirits and improve your mood by creating a natural high without bothering anyone else.

As far back as the 60’s the musical Hair took to the stage and full- throatily declared to the world that ‘masturbation can be fun’ and in chorus encouraged fellow grown-ups to ’join the holy orgy Kama Sutra, everyone.’

We say hallelujah to the sentiment! Masturbation has always been a perfectly natural, normal and healthy activity that releases the endorphins dopamine and oxytocin.

These relieve stress, help you relax and fall asleep easier, combat hangovers and make you feel very good about the world in general.

So discard any misgivings you might have and become creative. Brush up on your technique and for variation include a lubricant like Intimate Organics Wild Strawberries and a variety of vibrators like the Fifty Shades of Grey Deep Within vibrator or the Lelo Soraya rabbit vibrator.

What better way to spend a few minutes than taking yourself in hand and maybe a vibrating love egg?

What makes self-gratification so great is that it’s an entirely personal and guilt (and otherwise) free pleasure and a ménage a moi allows you to control your arousal without having to take anyone else’s needs into account. Let’s face it, sometimes it’s a relief to only have to think about yourself.

Even if you’re in a sexually satisfying relationship, the necessity for safe sex often makes going the whole hog a bit of a bind for stressed couples and it's entirely acceptable for one or both partners to choose to indulge in a little ‘me time’ when the fancy takes them.

Knowing your body will also make you more confident in telling your partner where you’d like to be touched when the two of you do get together.

In any case the more sex one has the more sex one wants and being self sufficient is never a bad thing. There are times, like when you’re on your period when you might prefer not to have intercourse and then masturbating can help ease the cramps. Or, if for some reason you've sworn off sex all together for a while, self stimulation will help your libido to remain alive and well and keep your brain fanaticising and concentrating on sex which is always the healthiest state of mind in which to be.

There are, in fact, no negative repercussions to masturbating what so ever.

You can’t catch any STI’s, become pregnant or sick and once you understand exactly how your body works you’ll know how best to pleasure it and then  the sky’s the limit as to how many multiple orgasm sessions you can create for yourself with the help of another.

What an awesome way to unwind at the end of each hectic day!

Lady Fay at Lady Fay's Boudoir, is a safe place created by women to escape the everyday and liberate your saucy side with sexy lingerie and sex toys.

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