You can choose your partner, but not his mother. Life would be easier right? If you could be able to choose his mother too, but since that’s not how it works, you should learn ways to deal with his mother. Here are ways to deal with his mother in the right manner.
Understand where she’s coming fromBefore you can be understood you need to understand. Try to put yourself in her shoes; ask yourself why she feels that way. She may see you as a potential threat for her son’s affection, or maybe she went through the same headache with her mother-in-law. What you need to do in this kind of situation is to show her how she’s irreplaceable in his life even now that he’s with you.
Be assertiveYou may be tempted to just let your partner’s controlling mother have her way, and run your relationship as she wants just to keep the peace, but doing so can make things even worse. If ever you do have a confrontation with her, be sure to assert yourself and let your voice be heard; just don’t overdo it because you may give the impression that you’re the rude one.
Focus on your relationshipAfter all, the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with is your partner so put your focus on him, though your relationship with his mother is also important. He can even try to make his mother see that too.
Talk to your partnerIf you feel his mother is going overboard like she’s the third person in your relationship talk to your partner about it he knows his mother more than you do. Reality is, she might be doing that intentionally to annoy you or make you feel left out. Be open to your partner and let him deal with her.
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