Not sure how to spice things up in the bedroom?
We've got tips from the experts to get you in the mood and provide answers to some burning questions.
1. What are vaginal creams that promise to tighten one’s anatomy?
In India, there is a vaginal cream called 18 Again that promises to restore your tightness. Vaginal creams market themselves as health products that also help prevent itching and yeast infections and stop urinal incontinence. They even go as far as promising an enhanced sexual experience, just so they can trick you into thinking you need them.
Truth is, you don’t need them and, no, they won’t make you tighter down there either.
2. I would like to initiate a threesome, how do I go about it?
Finding another person to join you in this kinky act is probably the biggest challenge. Also, few people in committed relationships are mature enough to handle a ménage à trois.
Roping in a friend is a bad idea. If your partner is willing, rather surf websites such as swingersboard.com or www.sacouples.com to meet people with alternative sex lifestyles.
3. I’m into being dominated – what can I try safely?
If you're turned on by being submissive, ask him to spank you with his bare hand while having sex. He can increase the sexual voltage by pulling your hair as you come or binding your feet and hands for an exhilarating doggy style.
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4. Do you have tips on how to make sex fun in the bath or shower?
Water spilling all over the floor as he struggles to put it in, hot water scalding his balls, cold temperatures shrinking his hard-on etc. Let’s face it, mixing sex and water can be messy.
Try the back floating position, with your legs spread-eagled and your man on his knees between your thighs so he’ll be able to hit the spot. In the shower, if you are hung up on the romantic cascading-water scene, opt to give each other oral sex rather.
5. How do I dress up like a nurse without feeling like an idiot?
Playing naughty nurse is Role Playing 101. You can blindfold him and act out your first scene with more confidence when he is just listening and not watching. Let him in on the action during scene two for your naughty reveal.
6. What’s the best way to make my new lover earn the right to have sex with me?
The real question is not if you want to wait, but how long you and your lover will be prepared to wait. Waiting is a good idea if you would like your partner to see the value of your relationship beyond just the physical.
7. Do you have tips on how to get my man to go down on me?
Why not request a full-body lick-a-thon and coerce him sensually into licking every single part of you?
Or, watch a porn video with oral sex as the main storyline and watch it together. When he starts getting hot and bothered, use your feminine wiles to request exactly what the girl in the naughty video has been getting.
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8. How can I make a blowjob really exciting?
Try playing around with temperatures and various sensations. Swallow coffee halfway through giving him head and suck his penis into your mouth. Eat a dollop of ice cream soon after that and take him in again, swirling the ice cream around his shaft as it melts in your mouth.
Lick him like an ice cream cone and introduce a mint that you can swirl around his penis. The hot-cold menthol sensation is sure to drive him temporarily insane.
9. My man only seems to want to have sex with me after watching porn. Is this normal?
Any woman would find this behaviour disturbing. I have a problem with any man watching porn for the main dish and turning you into the dessert. Girls are different when it comes to sex; the mood and emotions have to be right and him jumping you after indulging in porn doesn’t sound romantic. Let him know that it makes you uncomfortable.
10. I get really horny when I’m having my period. Is it okay to have sex?
Horniest at your messiest – that’s what you are, girl. Fluctuating hormones during your period can leave you highly lubricated and sensitive.
If you want to get kinky during your period, use lots of towels to keep the sheets clean and go ahead. Enjoy!
