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A pregnant three-way couple believes their baby will have three times as much love as a “normal child” – with the biological parents even hoping to let their girlfriend breastfeed the newborn.
Married couple Lo and Mike Taylor became a thruple after a promiscuous night with their now girlfriend, Jess Woodstock, turned into a deep emotional connection in June 2018.
But now, three is soon to become four after Lo and Mike naturally conceived a baby in March. The trio is hoping to give three equal parts flesh and blood to their offspring by letting Jess share the task of nursing the child.
The thruple from Colorado in the US, say they regularly face people who don’t understand their lifestyle. They have questions over their sex life and doubts about jealousy over their intertwined relationship. But they’ve has dismissed the negativity, claiming their baby will have even more opportunities and everything it could ever want.
“The first question that everyone asked us was ‘who’s carrying the baby?’”, Lo said.
“Most people have been very sweet and thoughtful but even just a few months ago before we announced the pregnancy, we were seeing comments from people saying things like ‘wait until one of them gets pregnant, we’ll see what happens then’.
“But we’ve been trying to have a baby together for over a year and when we found out we were pregnant it was one of the best things that ever happened to the three of us.
“These comments always come from people who wouldn’t be able to handle this themselves, and that’s ok because it’s not for everyone.
“I know some women might be funny about letting another person nurse their child but we want to get as much of each of us in the baby as we can, because it’s a 33% share from each of us.
“I wanted Jess to be in this baby as much as possible because it will look like me and Mike, so we want as much of her DNA as we can get too.”
Mike and Lo are college sweethearts who moved in together after graduation and got married four years ago. The pair were pleasantly surprised when they both realized they wanted a deeper and meaningful relationship with Jess.
“Before we met Jess our relationship was a lot more vanilla. We kept it to ourselves but we always discussed how it would be fun to have a threesome with someone else.
“I was the one who approached one of Jess’ friends and asked her about Jess. She started laughing and explained that Jess was polyamorous. We didn’t even know what that meant, I remember Mike and I had to google it,” Lo recalls
She says the day after they met Jess they both agreed they wanted to see more of this girl.
“We both just loved being around her. It was organic like any normal relationship.
“Our sex life has definitely been enhanced having another person in the bedroom. It brings a whole new dynamic, there are more sensations, more to look at and more to touch,” Lo explains.
Despite some initial concerns from Lo’s family, who were as surprised as she was to learn that she was bisexual, the thruple was soon widely accepted by all three families and their friends.
Although the clan’s loved ones have come to terms with the idea, many strangers have questioned their relationship.
“People use the word girlfriend as a bit of a throwaway term of endearment so sometimes we have to spell it out for them and the look on their faces is priceless,” Mike says.
“They might have never heard of a thruple before or they don’t understand how it could work because they couldn’t do something like this.
“They usually go straight to the physical aspects when they start to ask questions but it’s such a deeper love than just that.
“We always say it’s 3+0 not 2+1 because we all want the same thing. I get to see two people that I love dearly, love each other, and that’s a difficult feeling to describe to someone else.”
Jess adds that she feels like an equal part of the relationship.
“Sometimes people ask if I feel like I’m less than them or worry because I don’t have a ring on my finger but I know that the two of them are planning an engagement, whether it happens now or in a few years it doesn’t matter,” she says.
While Lo will be carrying the child, Jess intends to be involved as much as possible, acting as her home birth doula and will even nurse the baby by syncing up her cycle and hormones with Lo to stimulate milk production in her body.
“At this point I don’t see myself bearing a child but to still be able to have that skin to skin contact with this baby and being able to nurture it in that way is so important to me.
“Formula is the last resort and last thing that we want to give our baby so being able to take some of that burden off Lo so she’s able to rest and recuperate is special too.
“Not a lot of women can say I’m going to take this shift off and let my girlfriend breastfeed tonight. I absolutely adore Lo so being able to do that for her makes me feel almost as if the baby came out of me as well,” Jess says.
With their new addition to the family due to arrive on 26 December 2020, the trio have dubbed the baby their Christmas miracle.
“We’ve met a couple of other thruples and the kids they have are amazing,” Jess said.
“They know so much more love and understanding and acceptance of people they have such huge hearts these thruple children have no hate for anyone.
“Some of our friends who are in two-person relationships joke that they wish they had an extra pair of hands to help out with their kids. So the three of us can’t wait.”
Source: Magazine Features
